mental-health

Trust the Trigger – Your Inner Compass Is Calling

There’s a quiet but potent invitation that life extends to you every day — not through comfort, but through contrast. Through discomfort. Through the pang in your chest, the tightening in your jaw, the sting behind your eyes. Through your triggers.

Don’t avoid them.

Your triggers are not signs that you’re broken or failing. They’re sacred signals from your inner world, designed to guide you toward deeper truth. Like emotional tuning forks, they reveal where something within you longs to be seen, healed, reclaimed.

In recent years, we’ve seen the rise of trigger warnings as a social norm — and while originally intended to offer protection and care, they may have subtly taught us that discomfort is dangerous. That pain is to be avoided. That safety means never feeling anything unpleasant. But in truth, resilience isn’t built through avoidance. It’s forged through gentle confrontation, compassionate self-inquiry, and the willingness to sit in the fire without fleeing.

When we cushion everything, we risk weakening the muscles of emotional maturity. We deny ourselves the very experiences that build discernment, self-trust, and inner strength. And slowly, we begin to fear our own emotions — forgetting that we were born with everything we need to navigate the full spectrum of human experience.

So when a trigger arises, don’t run. Don’t suppress. And don’t shame yourself. Instead, pause, notice, and engage. Because in that moment of awareness, you begin a brave act of self-remembering. And from that place, something beautiful unfolds. You evolve, you grow, and you begin to trust yourself more deeply. You become your own emotional barometer — no longer dependent on others to tell you what’s safe to feel, but guided by the quiet compass of your own inner wisdom.

Your emotions are not enemies. They are energy in motion, which is meant to move you toward wholeness. And your triggers? They are thresholds — openings where the old self dissolves and the Radiant Self begins to emerge. Be brave. Develop your inner synthesis. Meet your threshols with grace.

You were never meant to be a stranger to yourself.

Trust the trigger. It’s not the end. It’s the beginning. It’s your soul’s whisper: “Come closer… I have something to show you.”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames
Helping you transmute pain into power and become the living legacy of your soul.

Trusting and Knowing Yourself

Have you ever longed to be deeply seen, only to find yourself met with silence or misunderstanding?

There’s a quiet truth I’ve come to know—one that didn’t arrive all at once, but gently, over time: People can only recognise you to the extent that they’ve come to know themselves. It’s not an easy truth. I used to resist it. Maybe you have, too. I’ve felt the ache of wanting someone to understand me, to see into my depths. I’ve reached toward others, hoping to draw them into greater intimacy and presence—not out of pressure, but out of longing. And when they couldn’t meet me there, I questioned myself. Why don’t they get it?

But slowly, life began to soften me.

With time, with grace, and yes—with heartbreak—I began to see things differently. I realised it’s not my work to push another beyond where they are. It’s my calling to stay true to who I am: to be real, to be kind, and to meet others with love. So now I ask you to consider: Where might you be holding the weight of needing to be understood? There’s a quiet freedom in letting go—the kind that comes when you no longer need to translate the language of your soul to fit someone else’s vocabulary. When you stop trying to be palatable and simply become present.

I’ve learned that my deepest gift is just that: presence.
Unmasked. Unpolished. Whole. And when I meet others from that place, without needing to be mirrored, something shifts.

I begin to love them as they are.
I begin to honour their pace.
And I begin to trust the wisdom of timing—not mine, but life’s.

Not everyone will meet us in that sacred middle space.
Some will. Some won’t.
And both are okay.

What matters is that we keep showing up—with enthusiasm, with truth, and with the kind of peace that doesn’t hinge on being understood. Because wholeness isn’t given by others. It’s remembered within. And maybe that’s where you begin again, too. Right here. Just as you are.

Heart to Heart, Dear One

New Narrative Integration

Hello, wondrous Souls,

Today, I want to share something close to my heart — how transformation becomes real when we begin to integrate our story in a new way. The transformational work I offer is not just a process; it’s a meaningful adventure — one that blends both social and spiritual wisdom to create real and lasting shifts. It’s about aligning your heart, your mind, and your soul community so that your inner growth naturally flows into your outer world. My New Narrative Integration© method is a fresh and purposeful way to help guide this powerful process of change.

A Shift in Consciousness: The Starting Point of Real Change

The heart of deep transformation is a shift in the way we see ourselves and the world. It’s not always dramatic — sometimes it’s subtle, like a soft inner knowing or a new way of responding to life. But science and spiritual psychology agree: this shift is a powerful indicator of lasting change. It shapes our beliefs, behaviours, and relationships in meaningful ways.

  • Integration and Storytelling: Your Supportive Allies — As you travel through this journey, two gentle companions walk beside you—integration and narrative. These practices help ground your transformation, making space for real emotional growth, deeper self-awareness, and greater resilience. They offer a bridge, connecting the spiritual path of self-discovery with the deeply human need for connection and shared experience.

Your Heart and Brain: A Powerful Partnership

One of the most encouraging parts of this work is knowing that your brain can change, and your heart plays a beautiful role, too. Thanks to neuroplasticity, your brain forms new connections when you learn, grow, or open yourself to new experiences. And your heart, with its intuitive, magnetic wisdom, is just as involved. Together, they form a partnership that supports you in consciously evolving at any stage of life.

  • Meeting Resistance with Compassion—Along the way, you may encounter resistance, and that’s completely normal. It’s just your old patterns trying to keep things familiar. With New Narrative Integration©, you’ll have tools to meet that resistance with understanding and curiosity, allowing you to move forward with greater ease and trust. You’ll also find strength in knowing you’re not alone — community, connection, and shared wisdom are always part of this path.
  • Emotional Intelligence: A Game Changer—Learning to tune into your emotions and truly understand them — is key to transformation. Emotional intelligence helps you communicate clearly, resolve conflict gently, and make decisions that feel right. It strengthens your relationships and supports both your personal growth and your place in the world.


So if you feel called to explore the journey of New Narrative Integration© know that you’re supported every step of the way by powerful insights, compassionate tools, and a community that’s walking the path with you. With New Narrative Integration©, you’re not just transforming yourself — you’re helping create a ripple effect of change in your life, your community, and beyond.

Let’s take this journey together — one heart, one story, and one transformation at a time.

With love and purpose, Elizabeth.

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Resentment: An Unseen Burden

Hello wondrous Souls,

There’s a hidden weight we sometimes carry—a silent weight that tugs at the nervous system, keeping it looped in vigilance, even when there’s no danger in sight. This weight is resentment. Often subtle, it disguises itself as justified anger, disappointment, or moral righteousness. But beneath that, it is a survival response… a signal to our body that something still isn’t safe.

Resentment traps the body in a low hum of stress. It keeps your system on high alert, whispering to your cells that you’re not yet out of the storm. You might be smiling on the outside, tending to your day, even appearing to have let go—but deep within, your nervous system is still scanning for threat, still remembering the sting, still reliving the moment.

And here’s the truth: holding on to resentment doesn’t protect us. It binds us.

I have learned that true freedom doesn’t come from changing others or wishing for a better past—it comes when we choose to release the weight. Forgiveness, in this light, isn’t about condoning what happened. It’s about choosing peace for your own body, mind, and soul. When you let go, you’re not setting them free — you’re setting yourself free.

The body knows. It will often whisper before it screams. A tightness in the chest, a knot in the stomach, a jaw that clenches when no one’s looking. These are the sacred cues of your physical temple, inviting you into awareness.

So I ask you, gently:
What is one heavy feeling your body is asking you to release?

Share it below, if you feel called. You never know who your healing might help. Sometimes our most vulnerable release becomes someone else’s lifeline. And together, as we let go, we rise lighter — luminous, unburdened, and free.

With love,
Elizabeth

The Benefits of Telling Your Story

There’s a transformative power in telling your story. It’s more than just sharing your experiences; it’s about reclaiming your narrative and owning your journey. When you put your thoughts into words, whether spoken or written, you begin to see the threads that connect your past to your present. What once felt fragmented starts to make sense, and you gain clarity on who you are and how you’ve grown.

Telling your story allows you to process what you’ve been through. As you express your experiences, you may notice that the emotions tied to them start to shift. What was once heavy or painful can lighten, becoming something you can hold with more ease. You begin to see your life from a new perspective—one where you’re not defined by the events of your past but empowered by them.

When you share your story, you also claim it. You stop running from the hard parts and embrace them as integral pieces of your journey. This act of ownership is liberating. It helps you stand taller, speak louder, and feel more at peace with yourself. And when you share your story with others, you invite connection, empathy, and understanding, creating space for both you and those who listen to grow.

How Telling Your Story Can Transform You

  • Heal Trauma
    • Speaking your truth can help you release emotions that have been bottled up, reducing the grip of painful memories.
    • By sharing, you begin to rewrite your narrative, transforming moments of struggle into stepping stones of growth.
    • Processing your story helps calm your nervous system, shifting your brain from survival mode to a place of safety and integration.
  • Build Confidence
    • When you tell your story, you take control of your narrative and recognize your strength.
    • Each time you share, you affirm your worth and your ability to rise above challenges.
    • Owning your story reinforces your voice, helping you speak with clarity and conviction.
  • Improve Heart-Brain Coherence
    • Storytelling helps align your thoughts and emotions, creating a sense of inner harmony.
    • It brings you into the present moment, helping you connect more deeply with your authentic self.
    • Sharing your journey with others fosters empathy and connection, which in turn nurtures balance within you.

Why Your Story Matters

Your story is unique, and sharing it isn’t just for your benefit—it can also inspire and heal others. When you open up, you allow others to see themselves in your experiences, reminding them that they’re not alone. Your courage to share could be the catalyst for someone else’s healing or self-discovery.

Telling your story is a way of declaring to the world: I have lived. I have grown. I have something to offer. It’s a gift, not only to yourself but to everyone who has the privilege of hearing it.

So, take a moment to reflect. What story is waiting to be told? Start small if you need to—write in a journal, share with a trusted friend, or simply speak it aloud to yourself. Embrace the beauty, the messiness, and the wisdom in your journey. In telling your story, you may discover that the act itself is as transformative as the experiences you’re sharing.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

If you are inspired by what you’ve read?

You can dive deeper into your transformation by exploring my coaching sessions, workshops, and retreats. Let’s co-create a future where you step fully into your Souls Purpose. 

~ You can visit my services and workshops to begin your journey today!

Seeing the Scars, But Not the Story

Hello wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about perception…

I always begin my presentations by sharing parts of my story to set the context of my brand. However, after a talk I gave to a large group of women on personal branding through archetypes, I was approached by someone who lingered back as the crowd thinned. They came up to me, eyes earnest, voice soft, and said:

“I’m so sorry that happened to you. I had a perfect childhood… I can’t imagine going through what you did.”

Then, without pause, they added:

“Imagine who you could have been if that hadn’t happened to you.”

Her words landed with a confused thud; they carried no malice but something subtler—more revealing. In that moment, I smiled gently, nodded graciously, and allowed her to speak her truth.

Later, in the quiet of my heart, I felt the need to sit with it—to feel it fully and sense what it might be pointing to, not just in terms of her understanding but also in how our stories are received, filtered, and sometimes misunderstood. Perhaps it was a moment shaped by her lifes lens—by unspoken wounds, cultural conditioning, or a need to make sense of my experience through her framework.

And, of course, there’s always the possibility that what was spoken was less about me and more about the quiet projections of her own subconscious beliefs—surfacing in response to something unprocessed within herself.

The woman’s comment came not from cruelty but from a lens shaped by simplicity—perhaps even pity and privilege. It struck me that suffering was a detour, an interruption to potential in her world. In mine, it was the fire that forged my authenticity. I don’t say that lightly. Pain doesn’t always make us stronger, but when we consciously work with it, it certainly makes us deeper.

There was a time when I, too, longed for a “perfect” past. One untouched by trauma. But that longing was now a ghost. My real growth began when I stopped seeing myself as broken and started seeing myself as a resilient and creative human being. Not despite my story—but because of it.

This person was indeed a gift and gave me another perceptive of how others may not see who I am due to the lens they choose to view life. Thankfully, for me the archetypes that inform my reality—The Alchemist, The Visionary, The Divine Child and The Queen—were not born out of a perfect world. They emerged gifting me all their light and shadow attributes—through my cracked-open places and the trials, challenges and initiations handed to me early in life.

If you only see the scars, you miss the magic and message in the story.

My truth is this: There is no version of me more powerful than I am now. Not the one who never experienced pain, not the one who was spared from a challenge. This version—right here, right now—results from soul-forging choices, courage in the face of fear, and a relentless devotion to turning wounds into wisdom.

And perhaps that is what we are here to do: not explain our story to be understood, but embody it so clearly, so confidently, so sacredly that others are invited not to pity us—but to look within themselves and ask, What am I not seeing about myself ?

So, to the gorgeous human being who approached me: I thank you, honour you and your spirit. I see your truth. But I know this—I am not a lesser version of who I could have been.

I am the living, breathing story of who I came here to be and I’m eternally grateful for my extraordinary story.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

If you are inspired by what you’ve read?

You can dive deeper into your transformation by exploring my coaching sessions, workshops, and retreats. Let’s co-create a future where you step fully into your Souls Purpose. 

~ You can visit my services and workshops to begin your journey today!