In an act of creation, there is a moment when the world falls silent. It is here, in this holy pause, that the sacred enters.
For most of my life, I have attended to these three practices — a trinity of presence that has shaped both my creative path and my way of being in our world:
Listen to the Silence—Enter the Silence—And become one with what I am creating or doing.
These are not just steps; they are doorways to another way of being. Each one draws me deeper into surrendering to the present moment — where spirit and matter weave together. Over the years, I’ve come to see that this process is also the key to truly being with people. Not just hearing them… but listening with the kind of presence that can be felt.
In a world vibrating with a digital cacophony and opinion-laden voices, the most radical act is no longer to speak, but to truly listen. Not listening with the mind’s impatience or the ego’s interruptions — but the deep listening that disarms the ego, stills the inner noise, and allows the other person to be fully received.
If the unseen realms kept a karmic measure, it wouldn’t be based on how many hours we sat in meditation, but on how many hearts were spent feeling fully heard. Because listening, in its most valid form, is meditation.
It is the discipline of presence — the art of letting another soul unfold without resistance.
The true alchemy is becoming one with all that is, another human being and discovering the extraordinary in that moment.
It can be incredibly difficult—sometimes almost impossible—to forgive those who have hurt, betrayed, or traumatised us. When someone’s behaviour cuts deep, leaving wounds that echo across years or even lifetimes, forgiveness can feel like a betrayal of our pain, a dismissal of the truth.
And yet, when we hold on tightly to the story of the wrong, something else begins to take root—Rage, Resentment, Blame, Hatred—These energies may seem justified, even necessary, in the face of cruelty or injustice. But over time, they lodge themselves in our emotional body and nervous system, quietly distorting the very peace we yearn for. We lose touch not only with the person or events that hurt us, but also with ourselves. With our own essence and the humanity we are trying to protect.
Here’s the paradox: The longer we withhold forgiveness, the more estranged we become from the very qualities we value—empathy, compassion, self-trust, and connection.
But there is a powerful, transformative path available to us…
To love anyway. To love radically. To love unconditionally. Even when it defies logic.
Now, let’s pause here. The phrase unconditional love has been tossed around so frequently that it’s lost its gravitas. It’s become a buzzword in self-help circles and spiritual memes. But true unconditional love—the kind that asks us to see another’s humanity even through the fog of our pain—is not passive or naive. It is the most powerful of all forces.
To offer forgiveness and unconditional love to someone who has harmed you does not mean excusing their behaviour. It does not mean denying accountability, justice, or healthy boundaries. But it does mean choosing to transform the energetic imprint you carry—And that changes everything.
When we forgive, we shift our resonance. We reclaim our own clarity. We stop feeding the wound, and instead begin nourishing a new pattern of response. We become part of the solution.
Energetically, forgiveness liberates. It creates space where blame and resentment can’t exist. It invites a recalibration in the wider field, often in unseen but impactful ways. Your forgiveness might be the very light that helps tip the scales in a more life-affirming direction.
Even if you never see the results directly, your act of inner alchemy becomes a living prayer—one that supports the emergence of truth, healing, and greater harmony.
This is not blind optimism. It is the wisdom of universal balance. Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It’s about freeing.
It’s about choosing love over bitterness, and coherence over chaos. It is how we reclaim our deepest humanity—And ultimately, how we help heal the world.
Inspired by the quote: “Life gives you plenty of time to do whatever you want to do if you stay in the present moment.” — Deepak Chopra
This quote centres on a soft truth—a reminder that time becomes spacious and generous when aligned with your presence. We often battle with time in a world that races ahead with to-do lists, deadlines, and digital noise.
We say, “I don’t have enough hours in the day,” or “There’s never enough time to do what I truly want.” But what if it’s not the clock’s ticking that binds us—but our absence from the present moment? The present moment is more than a concept—it is the living gateway where life unfolds. It is the sacred terrain of the now, the only place where real change, healing, creativity, and joy can occur.
When we truly place ourselves in the present moment, we step outside the illusion of scarcity. Time slows. Space opens. You feel, see and hear your true self again.
You might have noticed it in small moments—when you lose yourself in your craft, a conversation that stirs your spirit, or the hush of nature. Time bends. Hours dissolve. And somehow, everything feels possible.
Many years ago, I experienced this truth in the most unexpected place—on a morning television talk show. I had been invited as a guest to do a makeover on a woman. We began with a heartfelt conversation on the studio couch, sharing pieces of her story. But it was backstage, in the green room, that the real magic took place.
As I began the makeover—applying her makeup, cutting and blow-drying her hair, and styling her in a new outfit—I entered a heightened zone I had never known before. It was as though time expanded, allowing me to create with precision and grace.
A chatty young woman hovered nearby, attempting to engage, but I simply looked up at her with a soft but clear gaze—a gentle authority—and she moved on without a word. I was entirely in the now. There was no rush, no cluttered mind, just my full presence. And in just 40 minutes, an entire transformation took place—not just externally—but something deeper, more radiant. A soul remembered.
Being present in the now, creates your authentic Presence!
That experience stayed with me. It taught me that your presence is your secret power. When fully engaged in the moment, without distraction or doubt, we awaken to an extraordinary creative force within us. It’s not just about doing more—it’s about being more present to what we are doing.
The truth is that life is not too short; we spend too much of it in the past or trying to rush into futures that haven’t arrived. We dwell on regrets, replaying old stories. Or we project our fears forward, trying to control outcomes. Either way, we miss the gift wrapped around the present moment. To stay in the present moment is not to ignore plans or dreams. It is to arrive fully in what is right now, so that our actions are infused with clarity, our choices are shaped by alignment, and our presence is charged with divine power. It is in the now that our true self speaks, our soul guides, and our deepest desires begin to crystallise into form.
So if you feel like you’re running out of time—pause. Breathe. Return to the moment that’s right in front of you. Here, you will find more than minutes or hours. You will find enough. Enough energy, enough grace, enough direction to do whatever it is your soul came here to do. Because life, in all its wisdom, doesn’t rush us. It waits patiently and faithfully until we are ready to return to the only place where magic, meaning, and miracles live: the present.
What is one desire or dream you’ve been putting off because you believe you don’t have enough time?
How can you bring a piece of that dream into this moment, today?
There’s a quiet but potent invitation that life extends to you every day — not through comfort, but through contrast. Through discomfort. Through the pang in your chest, the tightening in your jaw, the sting behind your eyes. Through your triggers.
Don’t avoid them.
Your triggers are not signs that you’re broken or failing. They’re sacred signals from your inner world, designed to guide you toward deeper truth. Like emotional tuning forks, they reveal where something within you longs to be seen, healed, reclaimed.
In recent years, we’ve seen the rise of trigger warnings as a social norm — and while originally intended to offer protection and care, they may have subtly taught us that discomfort is dangerous. That pain is to be avoided. That safety means never feeling anything unpleasant. But in truth, resilience isn’t built through avoidance. It’s forged through gentle confrontation, compassionate self-inquiry, and the willingness to sit in the fire without fleeing.
When we cushion everything, we risk weakening the muscles of emotional maturity. We deny ourselves the very experiences that build discernment, self-trust, and inner strength. And slowly, we begin to fear our own emotions — forgetting that we were born with everything we need to navigate the full spectrum of human experience.
So when a trigger arises, don’t run. Don’t suppress. And don’t shame yourself. Instead, pause, notice, and engage. Because in that moment of awareness, you begin a brave act of self-remembering. And from that place, something beautiful unfolds. You evolve, you grow, and you begin to trust yourself more deeply. You become your own emotional barometer — no longer dependent on others to tell you what’s safe to feel, but guided by the quiet compass of your own inner wisdom.
Your emotions are not enemies. They are energy in motion, which is meant to move you toward wholeness. And your triggers? They are thresholds — openings where the old self dissolves and the Radiant Self begins to emerge. Be brave. Develop your inner synthesis. Meet your threshols with grace.
You were never meant to be a stranger to yourself.
Trust the trigger. It’s not the end. It’s the beginning. It’s your soul’s whisper: “Come closer… I have something to show you.”
Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames Helping you transmute pain into power and become the living legacy of your soul.
Have you ever longed to be deeply seen, only to find yourself met with silence or misunderstanding?
There’s a quiet truth I’ve come to know—one that didn’t arrive all at once, but gently, over time: People can only recognise you to the extent that they’ve come to know themselves. It’s not an easy truth. I used to resist it. Maybe you have, too. I’ve felt the ache of wanting someone to understand me, to see into my depths. I’ve reached toward others, hoping to draw them into greater intimacy and presence—not out of pressure, but out of longing. And when they couldn’t meet me there, I questioned myself. Why don’t they get it?
But slowly, life began to soften me.
With time, with grace, and yes—with heartbreak—I began to see things differently. I realised it’s not my work to push another beyond where they are. It’s my calling to stay true to who I am: to be real, to be kind, and to meet others with love. So now I ask you to consider: Where might you be holding the weight of needing to be understood? There’s a quiet freedom in letting go—the kind that comes when you no longer need to translate the language of your soul to fit someone else’s vocabulary. When you stop trying to be palatable and simply become present.
I’ve learned that my deepest gift is just that: presence. Unmasked. Unpolished. Whole. And when I meet others from that place, without needing to be mirrored, something shifts.
I begin to love them as they are. I begin to honour their pace. And I begin to trust the wisdom of timing—not mine, but life’s.
Not everyone will meet us in that sacred middle space. Some will. Some won’t. And both are okay.
What matters is that we keep showing up—with enthusiasm, with truth, and with the kind of peace that doesn’t hinge on being understood. Because wholeness isn’t given by others. It’s remembered within. And maybe that’s where you begin again, too. Right here. Just as you are.
A Shift in Consciousness: The Starting Point of Real Change
The heart of deep transformation is a shift in the way we see ourselves and the world. It’s not always dramatic — sometimes it’s subtle, like a soft inner knowing or a new way of responding to life. But science and spiritual psychology agree: this shift is a powerful indicator of lasting change. It shapes our beliefs, behaviours, and relationships in meaningful ways.
Integration and Storytelling: Your Supportive Allies — As you travel through this journey, two gentle companions walk beside you—integration and narrative. These practices help ground your transformation, making space for real emotional growth, deeper self-awareness, and greater resilience. They offer a bridge, connecting the spiritual path of self-discovery with the deeply human need for connection and shared experience.
Your Heart and Brain: A Powerful Partnership
One of the most encouraging parts of this work is knowing that your brain can change, and your heart plays a beautiful role, too. Thanks to neuroplasticity, your brain forms new connections when you learn, grow, or open yourself to new experiences. And your heart, with its intuitive, magnetic wisdom, is just as involved. Together, they form a partnership that supports you in consciously evolving at any stage of life.
Emotional Intelligence: A Game Changer—Learning to tune into your emotions and truly understand them — is key to transformation. Emotional intelligence helps you communicate clearly, resolve conflict gently, and make decisions that feel right. It strengthens your relationships and supports both your personal growth and your place in the world.
Elizabeth Ellames 