There’s a quiet but potent invitation that life extends to you every day — not through comfort, but through contrast. Through discomfort. Through the pang in your chest, the tightening in your jaw, the sting behind your eyes. Through your triggers.
Don’t avoid them.
Your triggers are not signs that you’re broken or failing. They’re sacred signals from your inner world, designed to guide you toward deeper truth. Like emotional tuning forks, they reveal where something within you longs to be seen, healed, reclaimed.
In recent years, we’ve seen the rise of trigger warnings as a social norm — and while originally intended to offer protection and care, they may have subtly taught us that discomfort is dangerous. That pain is to be avoided. That safety means never feeling anything unpleasant. But in truth, resilience isn’t built through avoidance. It’s forged through gentle confrontation, compassionate self-inquiry, and the willingness to sit in the fire without fleeing.
When we cushion everything, we risk weakening the muscles of emotional maturity. We deny ourselves the very experiences that build discernment, self-trust, and inner strength. And slowly, we begin to fear our own emotions — forgetting that we were born with everything we need to navigate the full spectrum of human experience.
So when a trigger arises, don’t run. Don’t suppress. And don’t shame yourself. Instead, pause, notice, and engage. Because in that moment of awareness, you begin a brave act of self-remembering. And from that place, something beautiful unfolds. You evolve, you grow, and you begin to trust yourself more deeply. You become your own emotional barometer — no longer dependent on others to tell you what’s safe to feel, but guided by the quiet compass of your own inner wisdom.
Your emotions are not enemies. They are energy in motion, which is meant to move you toward wholeness. And your triggers? They are thresholds — openings where the old self dissolves and the Radiant Self begins to emerge. Be brave. Develop your inner synthesis. Meet your threshols with grace.
You were never meant to be a stranger to yourself.
Trust the trigger. It’s not the end. It’s the beginning. It’s your soul’s whisper: “Come closer… I have something to show you.”
Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames Helping you transmute pain into power and become the living legacy of your soul.
You are not born with confidence etched into your bones, nor do you arrive in this world as a fully-formed leader, striding with certainty into your vocational life. Confidence is not an inheritance, nor is leadership a crown granted at birth. Rather, they are quiet fires kindled over time—fueled by observation, tested through challenge, and shaped by the courage to show up as you truly are.
It is through the lens of deep observation that you first learn—watching others stumble, rise, retreat, and lead. You see the power of presence, the weight of words, the grace of listening. You begin to understand that leadership is not a posture of dominance, but a display of authenticity. It is a rhythm that pulses from within, aligned with integrity and soul.
And so, the journey begins—not with bravado, but with intention. Each time You choose to step into your authentic role, even if your voice trembles, you say to the world, “This is me, arriving as I am.” In that moment, something soft but unshakable awakens.
You expand. You remember. You grow.
Every honest step forward—whether it’s leading a circle, making a boundary, creating something new, or speaking your truth—is another strand woven into the tapestry of your true identity. You become more of yourself each time you show up in your truth, rooted in what is real, not rehearsed.
Leadership, then, is less about being in front and more about being aligned. And confidence, in its truest form, is the peace of knowing that who you are is enough—and always becoming more, naturally.
So let’s not wait for perfection before you begin. Let’s lead not only because you are ready, but because you are willing and available for your life. Remember, your authenticity is your greatest authority—and from that place, you rise, and rise again.
We live in a world that constantly encourages us to set goals, chase dreams, and measure success by achievements. There’s nothing wrong with having ambitions—goals give us direction and purpose. But have you ever noticed that when we finally reach those long-anticipated milestones, the joy is often fleeting? We check the box, celebrate for a moment, and then move on to the next thing.
What if the real magic of life isn’t found in the end result, but in the way we live every single day?
Values Over Goals
Goals are wonderful guides, but they are not what define a meaningful life. It’s our values—kindness, integrity, presence, love, curiosity, wisdom—that shape who we truly are. When we live in alignment with these deeper truths, we create a life that feels fulfilling, no matter what external successes we achieve.
Think about it—if you reach a career milestone but sacrifice your well-being or relationships along the way, does that really feel like success? If you accomplish something great but rush through the experience, always thinking about what’s next, have you truly lived that moment?
When we shift from a goal-driven mindset to a values-driven one, everything changes. Life becomes richer. Decisions become clearer. Instead of constantly striving for “more,” we start appreciating what is already here.
The Power of Presence
We often believe happiness exists somewhere in the future—after we accomplish something, after we fix something, after we become a better version of ourselves. But in truth, joy is available to us in the present moment.
When we slow down and approach life day by day, task by task, we invite a sense of flow and ease into our experience. Rather than getting lost in the endless pursuit of “what’s next,” we start noticing the magic in the small things—a smile exchanged with a stranger, the sound of rain against the window, the quiet satisfaction of completing something with care.
Life isn’t meant to be one grand performance where we constantly strive to impress or prove ourselves. It’s meant to be lived. Fully. Intentionally. With gratitude for the simple, everyday moments that often go unnoticed.
Creating Space for More Joy
So how do we cultivate this way of being? It starts with presence. Instead of waking up and immediately thinking about everything we need to accomplish, we can begin the day by grounding ourselves—taking a deep breath, setting an intention, remembering what truly matters.
Throughout the day, we can remind ourselves to slow down. To bring awareness to the little things we normally rush through. To appreciate the process instead of just the outcome.
And most importantly, we can let go of the pressure to “arrive” somewhere and instead embrace the idea that we are already exactly where we need to be.
Where the Magic Lives
At the end of the day, it won’t be the checked-off to-do lists or the trophies on the shelf that define the quality of our lives. It will be the love we shared, the presence we cultivated, and the joy we found in the ordinary.
So rather than asking, “What big goal should I chase next?” perhaps the better question is:
“How can I show up fully for today?”
Because when we live in alignment with our values, when we infuse presence into the simplest of tasks, life becomes something truly extraordinary.
And that, my friend, is where the real magic lives.
Protecting Your Focus in a World of Content Overload
In today’s hyper-connected world, we are constantly consuming information—articles, podcasts, videos, and endless social media posts. While knowledge is valuable, too much of it can leave us feeling mentally cluttered and unable to make clear, aligned decisions. Instead of moving forward with purpose, we become stuck in cycles of overthinking and indecision.
This phenomenon is often the result of decision fatigue—the mental exhaustion that comes from processing too many choices without taking action. It’s like being in a car that won’t move. You’re sitting behind the wheel, but without the right preparation, you can’t even start the journey, let alone steer in the right direction.
The Cost of Decision Fatigue
When decision fatigue sets in, we experience:
Mental overload and analysis paralysis.
Fear of making the “wrong” choice.
Avoidance of decisions altogether, leading to stagnation.
In this state, even the simplest tasks can feel overwhelming, leaving us disconnected from our intuition and unable to move forward.
Key Point: Protect Your Focus
To overcome decision fatigue, you must protect your focus. Endless consumption of information doesn’t lead to clarity; it leads to confusion. The more scattered your attention, the harder it is to listen to your inner wisdom and make aligned decisions.
Ask yourself:
Does this content support my current priorities?
Am I consuming out of curiosity or procrastination?
Does this align with my intention, passion and purpose?
Will this information move me closer to action?
Protecting your focus means curating what enters your mental space, creating boundaries, and giving yourself permission to step away from the noise.
Distinction: You Can’t Steer a Parked Car
Trying to make aligned decisions without action is like trying to steer a parked car. No matter how much you turn the wheel, you won’t move until you press the accelerator. But before you can even do that, you need to:
Find the Right Key – Identify what truly matters to you. What are your core values and priorities?
Put It in the Right Gear – Prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and practically to take the first step.
Work the Pedals – Balance acceleration with control. Sometimes you need to press the gas and move forward; other times, you need to ease up and reflect.
Action fuels clarity. Once you’re in motion, you can make adjustments, refine your direction, and build momentum. But none of that happens if you’re stuck in park.
How to Create Aligned Decisions
Pause and Reflect Before consuming more content, ask yourself: Am I searching for answers, or am I avoiding action?
Focus on Essentials Limit your inputs to 1–3 trusted sources that align with your values. Too much information scatters your energy.
Integrate Before Moving On After consuming content, write down key takeaways and decide on one action step you can take immediately.
Simplify Your Process Let go of perfection. Take the next small step, even if it feels uncertain—you can correct your course along the way.
Set Boundaries Create space for integration by scheduling time for reflection and implementation, free from “digital distractions.”
From Overwhelm to Alignment
Aligned decisions aren’t born out of overthinking—they emerge through intentional action. The next time you find yourself stuck in the spiral of consuming more content, remember this:
Find the right key—know your purpose.
Put it in gear—prepare for motion.
Work the pedals—balance action and reflection.
And most importantly—start moving. You can’t steer a parked car, but once you’re in motion, clarity will follow.
Your next step? Pause, reflect, and identify one decision you can make today to shift from consuming to creating. Let momentum be your guide.
Everyone is always creating from the fourth dimension, the realm of the imagination.
This dimension of consciousness operates beyond the visible, material world and is the realm of imagination and intention. Whether you are consciously shaping your reality from this dimension or not, it always plays a role in what you experience. The process of creation begins in this invisible realm, where ideas and visions first form. The moment you (think) of something, you are already setting things in motion, often unconsciously.
There exists a collective intelligence, sometimes called “infinite intelligence,” I refer to it as the the Divine Living Presence or The Unified Field, which helps orchestrate the unfolding of experiences in your life. This force, however, doesn’t necessarily bring you what you want; rather, it brings you what you deeply believe, unfortunately if those beliefs are rooted in your limiting programs, which you may have inherited from early life experiences—sometimes described as the “unhealable wound” by healers. These wounds may be overwhelming at first, but they often hold the key to your growth, offering opportunities for personal transformation.
As human beings, we typically function from two states: Your Flawed Character archetypal patterning, a reactive state, where fear, control and survival dominate, and your Higher Purpose archetypal patterning, a responsive state, where your creativity and clarity guide you. The key to manifesting what you want is to operate more frequently from a responsive state of being. The less time you spend in a reactive, primal state, the more you enter what is sometimes called a flow state or state of grace, where things unfold naturally, and success seems to come effortlessly. In this state, you stop doubting the process and begin enjoying life, which unexpectedly leads to even more success and fulfillment.
This mindset is a skill that anyone can learn. It’s not about filling an internal void but about authentic creation. When you align your desires with true intentions—things you genuinely want to create rather than those driven by fear or lack—success becomes inevitable. A core aspect of this creation process involves understanding your mental operating system.
As you grow up, you form beliefs based on your experiences, often shaped by well-meaning but limiting perceptions handed down by parents or authority figures. These beliefs form the lens through which you see the world—Or they may even be there from a past incarnation.
For instance, if as a child you were corrected for doing something “wrong,” you might internalize the belief that you can’t do things right. This belief then influences your adult life, reinforcing patterns of not being good enough, procrastination, self-doubt, or even self-sabotage. The human brain operates like a goal-achieving machine, but it can only work with the beliefs programmed into it.
For example: If you believe relationships are hard or money is scarce, the brain will seek evidence to support those beliefs and the unified field will produce experiences that align with them.
beliefs generate thoughts
thoughts trigger emotions
emotions drive actions
and actions create results
These results, in turn, reinforce the original beliefs, whether positive or negative. Shifting these beliefs requires awareness and effort. One of the best ways to become conscious of your limiting beliefs is to observe areas in your life that aren’t how you want them to be.
If your finances or relationships are struggling, reflect on the thoughts and feelings you associate with those areas. Are you constantly stressed about money or feel undeserving of love?
Your outer reality is mirroring those internal beliefs back to you.
The external world is vibrational, and everything, including thoughts and emotions, carries a vibration that influences the reality around you. The way you experience physical reality—what seems solid and material—is a result of how your senses interpret the vibrational energy that surrounds you. When you change your internal vibration—your thoughts and emotions—you change the reality you experience.
Ultimately, taking responsibility for the reality you’re creating is the first step toward transformation.
Blame and Shame will always take you to the Same
Blaming external circumstances, other people, or societal structures for what isn’t working in your life keeps you stuck. Instead, by shifting your internal beliefs and aligning with your higher intentions, you can begin to consciously create the life you desire from the fourth dimension, where all creation begins.
Lets talk about the idea of wanting more in life, and I really want to unpack this concept because I think many of us are striving towards having more—more money, more relationships, more peace, and for some, more spirituality. I’ll admit that I, too, have pursued this idea of more. There seems to be this constant pursuit for more, and yet, it was interesting to dive into the meaning of what more really means for humans.
I think more is a natural part of who we are. Humans are Creators—naturally creative beings. Humans have been designed to think, feel, respond, and have the capacities to create and co-create in the universe. So, there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting more, it’s our nature.
The challenge is that you’ve been playing the more game the wrong way. On one hand, you desire more to give yourself permission to love yourself, but that’s not an authentic reason to want to create. It doesn’t come from a place that’s authentic to you. It’s like wanting more money simply to escape financial insecurity.
But that’s not how money works. Money is energy, and energy is always seeking to grow, expand, and evolve. See, the Divine Living Presence and the Universe doesn’t perceive you as lacking or being in financial insecurity. It sees you as—you’ve always had enough. How do you know?
Because you’re here right now. You’ve always had enough, you have enough, and you will always have enough. This idea that you need more money to escape scarcity breaks the system; it’s not aligned with true prosperity or abundance.
But let’s say there are things you genuinely want. Maybe you want to make more money so you can hire more employees, pay for your children’s education, enjoy nice dinners with your spouse, or even buy a boat. Maybe you want more to give philanthropically. There’s nothing wrong with that.
The problem lies in how you were taught bad habits or beliefs when it comes to achieving more. The formulas passed down to you from previous generations are flawed in many ways, but you can change that as soon as you decide that’s what you want. A key distinction is understanding that beliefs are decisions. These beliefs, often formed unconsciously in childhood or specific moments of life, can be changed.
Knowing that beliefs are decisions, you can simply make a new decision.
What I know about being in the transition phase of personal growth—described as the early stages of personal development, where you gain knowledge, motivation, and inspiration but then feel stuck, overwhelmed, and frustrated. The promises of personal development can sometimes backfire, leaving you more aware of your limiting beliefs without the tools to effectively change them—Integration the key.
This leads to a process I call Identify , Correct, Decide and Transform, which helps you shift your limiting thoughts and beliefs by making new decisions and sourcing evidence to support these new beliefs.
The Identify, Correct, Decide, and Transform approach centres on the conscious reshaping of personal beliefs by aligning them with positive lived experiences.
Let’s break down its three steps:
Identifying the Limiting Belief: This first step involves becoming aware of the unconscious beliefs that are holding you back. Often, these beliefs are formed in response to early experiences or social conditioning. The process of surfacing them is critical, as it allows for conscious awareness and the possibility of change.
Creating a New, Empowering Decision: Once you’ve identified the limiting belief, the next step is to actively decide on a more empowering belief that will support your goals and well-being. This decision must align with your values and desires, giving you the freedom to create a new narrative for yourself.
Sourcing Evidence from Your Life: Perhaps the most critical part of this process is grounding the new belief in your own experience. By finding real-life examples that align with your new decision, you essentially create “proof” that this belief is not only possible but already present in some aspects of your life. This reduces resistance, a common pitfall with tools like affirmations, which sometimes feel disconnected from reality.
The idea behind non-resistance aligns with the concept of letting go of limiting beliefs and embracing a new perspective based on previous successes, proof from your past:
Faith over Reason: Based on your past success. ~ Trust in possibilities beyond logical or immediate evidence.
Conviction over Reason: Based on your past success. ~ Strongly believing in your new path despite the doubts of your analytical mind.
Action over Reason: Based on your past success. ~ Taking steps forward, even when your mind provides reasons or excuses not to.
Gratitude over Reason: Based on your past success. ~ Embrace life with gratitude for what you have and know that success is your birthright, rather than focusing on what’s lacking.
In the Living Attributes System, the archetypal patterning of your Flawed Character operates in a reactive state that is fear-based, such as control, anger, stress, or jealousy. Whereas the archetypal patterning of the Higher Purpose version of yourself operates in an elevated responsive state of joy, gratitude, curiosity, and excitement. The goal is to notice when you are in a Reactive State and shift to a Responsive State because all creativity, abundance, and spiritual connection come from the Responsive State of balance and unity. This shift is determined not by external circumstances, but by the meaning we assign to your experiences. Suffering is caused by how you think and feel, not the events themselves.
Learn to ask yourself “What does that mean to me?”
By prioritizing these qualities, you begin to rewire neural pathways, creating lasting change in how you perceive and respond to the world. Each new belief, supported by memories of real-life evidence, starts to reshape your reality. This approach emphasizes the importance of personal proof, which strengthens your belief system of Faith, Conviction, Action, and Gratitude at a deeper, more sustainable level.
By integrating this understanding and using the Identify, Correct, Decide and Transform process to reprogram beliefs, you can shift out of limiting thought patterns and reactive states, moving toward a more empowered, creative, and aligned life.
Elizabeth Ellames 