personal-growth

The Only Real Thing: Is To Fulfil Our Purpose

There is a quiet moment, often unexpected, when life asks us to pause. Perhaps it comes as a whisper in the night, or as a sudden emptiness after achieving something we thought would make us happy. In that pause, we see clearly: the only thing that truly matters is not the trophies of the ego, but the fulfilment of our purpose.

Ego is clever—it tempts us with recognition, possessions, and fleeting victories. It convinces us that if only we can have more, do more, become more in the eyes of others, then we will finally feel complete. But inevitably, the satisfaction fades, and we are left with a hunger that cannot be fed by accolades or things.

Purpose, however, is different. Purpose is timeless. It’s that quiet compass within, our point of light in the heart that guides us toward what we came here to do, to embody, and to share. It is not about grandeur, but about truth.

Think of a candle: its purpose is not to prove its brilliance, but simply to burn. In burning, it gives light. In giving light, it fulfils itself. In the same way, our lives are most radiant when we allow our purpose to shine through us—without effort, without disguise.

Here is an example of being on purpose:

A person who had spent decades chasing positions of power and prestige. They admitted their résumé looked impressive, but their heart had become weary. Later in life, they began volunteering at a community garden, guiding children in planting seeds and tending to the earth. Now the person’s eyes glowed when they spoke of it. “For the first time,” they said, “I feel I’m doing what I was born to do.”

This story is a reminder that purpose does not need to be complicated—it simply needs to be lived.

When we shift from ego to purpose, we begin to feel a deeper kind of fulfilment, one that no one can take from us. Purpose connects us to the eternal flow of life from the Creator. It aligns us with the greater rhythm of creation, where every action becomes meaningful.

And here is the mystery: when we live on purpose, life conspires with us. The right people appear. Opportunities emerge without force. Doors open where there were only walls. Purpose carries its own momentum, and we find ourselves moving with a current far greater than our own will.

The world does not need more noise. It does not need more people seeking approval. It needs luminous beings who dare to live their truth. That is how we heal ourselves, and how we light the way for others.

The only real thing—the thing that endures when all else falls away—is to fulfil our purpose in this lifetime. Everything else is an echo of the ego and shadow. Purpose is the Flame of Life.

So ask yourself: 

What is the flame within me?

What am I here to bring alive?

And then, live it. For that is the most sacred gift you can give to the world—and to embody your own soul.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Trust the Trigger – Your Inner Compass Is Calling

There’s a quiet but potent invitation that life extends to you every day — not through comfort, but through contrast. Through discomfort. Through the pang in your chest, the tightening in your jaw, the sting behind your eyes. Through your triggers.

Don’t avoid them.

Your triggers are not signs that you’re broken or failing. They’re sacred signals from your inner world, designed to guide you toward deeper truth. Like emotional tuning forks, they reveal where something within you longs to be seen, healed, reclaimed.

In recent years, we’ve seen the rise of trigger warnings as a social norm — and while originally intended to offer protection and care, they may have subtly taught us that discomfort is dangerous. That pain is to be avoided. That safety means never feeling anything unpleasant. But in truth, resilience isn’t built through avoidance. It’s forged through gentle confrontation, compassionate self-inquiry, and the willingness to sit in the fire without fleeing.

When we cushion everything, we risk weakening the muscles of emotional maturity. We deny ourselves the very experiences that build discernment, self-trust, and inner strength. And slowly, we begin to fear our own emotions — forgetting that we were born with everything we need to navigate the full spectrum of human experience.

So when a trigger arises, don’t run. Don’t suppress. And don’t shame yourself. Instead, pause, notice, and engage. Because in that moment of awareness, you begin a brave act of self-remembering. And from that place, something beautiful unfolds. You evolve, you grow, and you begin to trust yourself more deeply. You become your own emotional barometer — no longer dependent on others to tell you what’s safe to feel, but guided by the quiet compass of your own inner wisdom.

Your emotions are not enemies. They are energy in motion, which is meant to move you toward wholeness. And your triggers? They are thresholds — openings where the old self dissolves and the Radiant Self begins to emerge. Be brave. Develop your inner synthesis. Meet your threshols with grace.

You were never meant to be a stranger to yourself.

Trust the trigger. It’s not the end. It’s the beginning. It’s your soul’s whisper: “Come closer… I have something to show you.”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames
Helping you transmute pain into power and become the living legacy of your soul.

Resentment: An Unseen Burden

Hello wondrous Souls,

There’s a hidden weight we sometimes carry—a silent weight that tugs at the nervous system, keeping it looped in vigilance, even when there’s no danger in sight. This weight is resentment. Often subtle, it disguises itself as justified anger, disappointment, or moral righteousness. But beneath that, it is a survival response… a signal to our body that something still isn’t safe.

Resentment traps the body in a low hum of stress. It keeps your system on high alert, whispering to your cells that you’re not yet out of the storm. You might be smiling on the outside, tending to your day, even appearing to have let go—but deep within, your nervous system is still scanning for threat, still remembering the sting, still reliving the moment.

And here’s the truth: holding on to resentment doesn’t protect us. It binds us.

I have learned that true freedom doesn’t come from changing others or wishing for a better past—it comes when we choose to release the weight. Forgiveness, in this light, isn’t about condoning what happened. It’s about choosing peace for your own body, mind, and soul. When you let go, you’re not setting them free — you’re setting yourself free.

The body knows. It will often whisper before it screams. A tightness in the chest, a knot in the stomach, a jaw that clenches when no one’s looking. These are the sacred cues of your physical temple, inviting you into awareness.

So I ask you, gently:
What is one heavy feeling your body is asking you to release?

Share it below, if you feel called. You never know who your healing might help. Sometimes our most vulnerable release becomes someone else’s lifeline. And together, as we let go, we rise lighter — luminous, unburdened, and free.

With love,
Elizabeth

The Benefits of Telling Your Story

There’s a transformative power in telling your story. It’s more than just sharing your experiences; it’s about reclaiming your narrative and owning your journey. When you put your thoughts into words, whether spoken or written, you begin to see the threads that connect your past to your present. What once felt fragmented starts to make sense, and you gain clarity on who you are and how you’ve grown.

Telling your story allows you to process what you’ve been through. As you express your experiences, you may notice that the emotions tied to them start to shift. What was once heavy or painful can lighten, becoming something you can hold with more ease. You begin to see your life from a new perspective—one where you’re not defined by the events of your past but empowered by them.

When you share your story, you also claim it. You stop running from the hard parts and embrace them as integral pieces of your journey. This act of ownership is liberating. It helps you stand taller, speak louder, and feel more at peace with yourself. And when you share your story with others, you invite connection, empathy, and understanding, creating space for both you and those who listen to grow.

How Telling Your Story Can Transform You

  • Heal Trauma
    • Speaking your truth can help you release emotions that have been bottled up, reducing the grip of painful memories.
    • By sharing, you begin to rewrite your narrative, transforming moments of struggle into stepping stones of growth.
    • Processing your story helps calm your nervous system, shifting your brain from survival mode to a place of safety and integration.
  • Build Confidence
    • When you tell your story, you take control of your narrative and recognize your strength.
    • Each time you share, you affirm your worth and your ability to rise above challenges.
    • Owning your story reinforces your voice, helping you speak with clarity and conviction.
  • Improve Heart-Brain Coherence
    • Storytelling helps align your thoughts and emotions, creating a sense of inner harmony.
    • It brings you into the present moment, helping you connect more deeply with your authentic self.
    • Sharing your journey with others fosters empathy and connection, which in turn nurtures balance within you.

Why Your Story Matters

Your story is unique, and sharing it isn’t just for your benefit—it can also inspire and heal others. When you open up, you allow others to see themselves in your experiences, reminding them that they’re not alone. Your courage to share could be the catalyst for someone else’s healing or self-discovery.

Telling your story is a way of declaring to the world: I have lived. I have grown. I have something to offer. It’s a gift, not only to yourself but to everyone who has the privilege of hearing it.

So, take a moment to reflect. What story is waiting to be told? Start small if you need to—write in a journal, share with a trusted friend, or simply speak it aloud to yourself. Embrace the beauty, the messiness, and the wisdom in your journey. In telling your story, you may discover that the act itself is as transformative as the experiences you’re sharing.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

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The Sacred Art of Boundaries: A Devotion to Self-Integrity

Hello wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about “boundaries” – a hot topic that so many of us must face and understand.

There is a quiet power in the realisation that boundaries are not about others. They are not demands or ultimatums. They are not conditions set to control or manipulate. A boundary is a sacred agreement with yourself—a line drawn in devotion to your own integrity.

Dr. Becky Kennedy captures this truth so simply: “A boundary is something that requires nothing from anybody else other than you.” This shifts everything. It means that boundaries are not contingent on whether others honor them. They are not about enforcing consequences or waiting for validation. They exist because you choose them. Because you are the guardian of your own energy, time, and well-being.

Too often, we misunderstand boundaries as something we must convince others to accept. We fear setting them because we worry about how they will be received. But the moment we step into the truth that a boundary is ours alone to uphold, we reclaim our personal power.

A boundary is saying, I will not abandon myself for the comfort of another. It is choosing self-respect over external approval. It is allowing ourselves to walk away, to say no, to remain rooted in our truth—without explaining, justifying, or seeking permission.

This is where real transformation begins. When we stop waiting for the world to make space for us and instead claim the space we need. When we stop trying to manage others’ reactions and instead stand firm in our own clarity.

Managing a Boundary in Action: A Family Gathering Example

Imagine a father whose adult child repeatedly uses inappropriate language when speaking to him at a family gathering, despite addressing others respectfully. He may feel disrespected and uncomfortable but hesitate to confront them directly. However, honouring his boundary means he does not have to wait for their behaviour to change—he simply upholds his own standard.

In this case, he can calmly and firmly state, “I do not accept being spoken to in that way. If you continue to use this language, I will remove myself from the conversation.” No argument, no pleading—just a simple, non-negotiable truth. If they continue, he follows through and steps away. The power lies not in forcing them to change but in his commitment to maintaining his own self-respect.

Another Example: Work-Life Balance

Consider an individual who finds themselves constantly answering work emails late at night, despite their deep desire to maintain a healthy work-life balance. Their employer or colleagues may not explicitly demand this, but the pressure feels implicit. To uphold their boundary, they decide, “I will not check or respond to work emails after 7 PM.” They do not need their employer’s approval to implement this boundary—it is theirs alone to maintain. If a colleague reaches out late, they simply do not engage until the next workday. Over time, this reinforces their boundary and teaches others how they wish to be treated.

So, what boundary is calling to you now? Where have you been outsourcing your sovereignty, waiting for someone else to grant you permission to protect your peace? What would it feel like to embody the deep knowing that you are allowed to choose what serves you—without guilt, without apology, without needing a single thing from anyone else?

The path of the sovereign soul is one of self-honoring. The invitation is here. Will you answer?

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Recognition, Deep Gratitude and Letting Go – Part 2

Hello wondrous Souls,

Ever feel like you’re trying too hard to make things happen? Pushing, striving, forcing—only to find yourself exhausted and wondering why the universe hasn’t responded? What if the key to manifestation wasn’t about effort at all, but about ease? The universe flows effortlessly when you align with its rhythm, and that alignment begins with three simple yet profound steps: Recognition, Deep Gratitude, and Letting Go.

This principle teaches us a way to unlock the natural flow of abundance and opportunity. Let’s explore what this means and how you can apply it in your life today.

1. Recognition: Awareness is Key

The first step in manifestation is simply seeing things as they are. You cannot shift your reality if you do not first recognise where you stand. Recognition is not about judgment; it’s about awareness.

Take a deep breath and honestly assess your current state. What emotions are present? What beliefs are guiding your choices? What patterns are playing out in your life? When you recognise what is, you bring yourself into the present moment—the only place where transformation can truly occur.

2. Deep Gratitude: Amplifying Abundance

Once you’ve recognised your reality, the next step is gratitude. Deep Gratitude is the bridge between what is and what can be. The more you focus on what’s working, what’s beautiful, and what’s already abundant in your life, the more the universe delivers.

Pause for a moment. What do you love and what are grateful for right now? It could be something grand or something simple—the warmth of the sun, a kind word from a friend, the feeling of alignment when you are doing what you love. Love and Gratitude shifts your vibration, drawing more of that energy into your field.

Devotional Prayer, much like gratitude, is not about asking for what you want or don’t have but about deepening your connection to a divine intelligence greater than you—one that you are intrinsically a part of. It is an expression of love and devotion, a sacred moment of unity with the creative force of the universe. When we pray with gratitude rather than longing, we affirm our trust in the divine flow of life.

3. Letting Go: Trust the Process

The final step is often the hardest: letting go. This is where we step out of the way and let the universe orchestrate the details. This is not about giving up—it’s about releasing control and resistance.

We often think we need to control every aspect of our manifestations, but true creation happens when we release the need to dictate how things unfold. Trust that the universe knows the most harmonious path. What if today, instead of forcing, you simply let your life flow?

Living the Principle

These three steps—Recognition, Deep Gratitude, and Letting Go—can be woven into your daily practice. When faced with a challenge, first recognise it. When something beautiful happens, express heartfelt gratitude. And when you’ve done your part, step back and let go, allowing the rest to unfold.

Manifestation isn’t about struggling to make things happen. It’s about stepping into the natural current of creation, where ease replaces effort and synchronicities become the norm. What if today you embraced this flow? What might unfold when you simply trust that all is aligning in your favour?

Heart to Heart and with Deep Gratitude, Elizabeth