Hello wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about “boundaries” – a hot topic that so many of us must face and understand.

There is a quiet power in the realisation that boundaries are not about others. They are not demands or ultimatums. They are not conditions set to control or manipulate. A boundary is a sacred agreement with yourself—a line drawn in devotion to your own integrity.

Dr. Becky Kennedy captures this truth so simply: “A boundary is something that requires nothing from anybody else other than you.” This shifts everything. It means that boundaries are not contingent on whether others honor them. They are not about enforcing consequences or waiting for validation. They exist because you choose them. Because you are the guardian of your own energy, time, and well-being.

Too often, we misunderstand boundaries as something we must convince others to accept. We fear setting them because we worry about how they will be received. But the moment we step into the truth that a boundary is ours alone to uphold, we reclaim our personal power.

A boundary is saying, I will not abandon myself for the comfort of another. It is choosing self-respect over external approval. It is allowing ourselves to walk away, to say no, to remain rooted in our truth—without explaining, justifying, or seeking permission.

This is where real transformation begins. When we stop waiting for the world to make space for us and instead claim the space we need. When we stop trying to manage others’ reactions and instead stand firm in our own clarity.

Managing a Boundary in Action: A Family Gathering Example

Imagine a father whose adult child repeatedly uses inappropriate language when speaking to him at a family gathering, despite addressing others respectfully. He may feel disrespected and uncomfortable but hesitate to confront them directly. However, honouring his boundary means he does not have to wait for their behaviour to change—he simply upholds his own standard.

In this case, he can calmly and firmly state, “I do not accept being spoken to in that way. If you continue to use this language, I will remove myself from the conversation.” No argument, no pleading—just a simple, non-negotiable truth. If they continue, he follows through and steps away. The power lies not in forcing them to change but in his commitment to maintaining his own self-respect.

Another Example: Work-Life Balance

Consider an individual who finds themselves constantly answering work emails late at night, despite their deep desire to maintain a healthy work-life balance. Their employer or colleagues may not explicitly demand this, but the pressure feels implicit. To uphold their boundary, they decide, “I will not check or respond to work emails after 7 PM.” They do not need their employer’s approval to implement this boundary—it is theirs alone to maintain. If a colleague reaches out late, they simply do not engage until the next workday. Over time, this reinforces their boundary and teaches others how they wish to be treated.

So, what boundary is calling to you now? Where have you been outsourcing your sovereignty, waiting for someone else to grant you permission to protect your peace? What would it feel like to embody the deep knowing that you are allowed to choose what serves you—without guilt, without apology, without needing a single thing from anyone else?

The path of the sovereign soul is one of self-honoring. The invitation is here. Will you answer?

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth