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When women enter The Change – Part Four

In early December 2025. I felt a quiet invitation to reshape my wellbeing. It was not born from urgency but from an inner knowing that it was time to return to practices that have always supported me. Fasting is a practice that I have experienced before, both in physical healing and spiritual deepening. Returning to it felt like reconnecting with an ancient conversation within myself.

As I shaped a personal program that felt true to my body and my intuition, a new insight arrived unexpectedly. I discovered the work of Dr. Mindy Pelz and her research on fasting during menopause and post-menopause. Her language and her understanding carved out a clearer path for me and affirmed what my body had already been revealing. It opened a new window into what was unfolding in this season of my life.

Now, only weeks later, something immense has stirred within me. My Sacred Mirroring Spiral feels awakened and illuminated more than ever. The Change no longer feels like a decline or a narrowing; it feels like a widening of consciousness. It feels like a threshold. There is a sense of returning to myself in a way that is both ancient and new.

This opened even further while I was listening to the song Hymn to Her. From an archetypal point of view, I could feel the Crown (Crone) rising. It was the quiet image of a woman who has walked through many seasons and finally places the crown upon her own head with grace. 

She does not seek applause; she simply recognises her own BEING.

This is where the true meaning of Crone and Hag becomes vital to reclaim. Crone speaks to the crown, the radiant wisdom that emanates from a lifetime of lived experience. Hag comes from hagio, meaning holy, a title once given to women of spiritual insight and depth. These words were originally filled with reverence and respect. 

Over time, they were twisted and distorted until they became caricatures that diminished women. The demonising of the Hag and the Crone did not happen by accident. It grew from a culture that feared powerful older women and worked to cast them as something to resist, fear, or mock. This distortion turned aging into something women were taught to hide, deny, battle, and feel ashamed of. It created an illusion that the later years are a descent rather than an ascent. Yet the original truth remains intact beneath the layers of distortion. Many feminist and spiritual communities are now reclaiming these titles to restore their dignity and power. They honour the original holiness of eldership and the strength that comes from a life fully lived.

In my own experience, The Change reveals itself as a fusion of three inner archetypes in the Living Attributes Codex. The Queen embodies sovereignty, self-respect, and a centred presence. The Wise Woman brings lived understanding, kindness, and clear perception. The Alchemist offers transformation, insight, and the ability to turn every experience into meaning and medicine. When these three merge, they create the fullest expression of The Change archetype. They form a powerful inner alliance that sees aging not as decline but as initiation. They recognise this season as a time of sovereignty, coherence, and inner radiance.

My journey with fasting, reflection, research, and intuition has brought me to this realisation. The body and spirit are inseparable, and together they guide me into this new chapter with clarity and courage. The Change is not a diminishing of power, but rather a remembering of it.

It is the awakening of the Crone or the Hag in her original light. It is the fusion of the Queen stepping forward, the Wise Woman watching with understanding and the Alchemist shaping new meaning. It is a woman finally seeing herself as whole and sacred, wearing The Crown that was always waiting for her, and has always been hers to claim.

And we will keep on speaking her name… “WOMAN”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

When women enter The Change – Part One

Today I am talking about something very close to my heart…

There is a quiet reckoning that arrives for many women in perimenopause and postmenopause. I prefer to give it back its original title, The Change, which is actually much more appropriate.

It is not always named aloud, yet it is deeply felt.

A shift occurs in the relationship we have with our bodies; sometimes it feels foreign and strange, sometimes it fills us with disappointment or even grief. Loathing may be too harsh a word, yet for many, something like loathing or estrangement does seem to take place. The body that once moved easily, responded predictably, or mirrored familiar cycles begins to speak a different language.

Hormones change, brain chemistry begins to recalibrate, joints stiffen, sleep becomes fragmented, and muscles seem to weaken. And the belly, for many women, thickens not as a failure of their diet but as a biological response to a profound internal transformation.

Yet we live in a culture that has not learned how to honour this passage. Instead of being welcomed as a rite of initiation, it is often framed as a decline. And so, without meaning to, women may turn against the very body that is carrying them into their next and most significant role.

This is the quiet danger of this stage in life; not the physical changes themselves, but the erosion of self-love that can accompany them.

Because beneath the surface of these changes, something extraordinary is occurring. Neurologically, hormonally, psychologically, women are moving into a phase of greater integration, perspective, and inner authority. The urgency to please softens, and the tolerance for the superficial thins. What emerges is discernment, clarity, and power. Not power as dominance, but the power of coherence and the kind that does not need permission.

And yet, when a woman stands before the mirror and sees only what has been lost, like tone, youth, familiarity, she may unconsciously confirm the very narratives the world has long projected onto her: that she is becoming less visible, less desirable, less relevant. This internalised story quietly undermines the sacred truth of what is actually unfolding.

Self-rejection at this stage is not neutral; it shapes how a woman speaks, how she occupies space, and how willing she is to be seen. When love and respect for the body diminish, the voice often follows. Confidence contracts and visibility feels risky. The woman who is meant to step forward as an Elder, a Matriarch, a cultural carrier of wisdom, instead learns to shrink.

Beautiful wisdom weavers of our world, our body is not betraying us; it is initiating us.

The softening belly is not a flaw; it is a centre of gravity shifting inward. Muscle loss is not a sentence; it is an invitation to move differently, to listen more closely, rest more, breathe into the change that you are living through. Find your strength with some gentle intention rather than force. What if your stiffness is asking for compassion, not judgment, because these changes are signals of real change, not punishments?

To love the body during this transition is a radical act, and it requires a new gaze; one that does not measure worth by tightness, speed, or compliance with outdated ideals. It asks us to see our bodies as allies in evolution, not objects to be corrected.

If women are to rise into visibility as Elders and Matriarchs, not just symbolic roles, but living their true presences in families, communities, and culture, self-love must become fundamental, not performative self-love and not affirmation layered over resentment. But a grounded, embodied reverence for the body as it is, here, now, in its wisdom phase.

Because how we treat our bodies becomes the template for how the world treats us.

When a woman loves and honours her body, she stands differently. She speaks with gravity; she no longer negotiates her worth, and her presence communicates something bolder and older than fashion and deeper than trend. She becomes a stabilising force, a witness, a keeper of perspective in a world addicted to a false beauty, the need for more and urgency.

This stage of life is not an ending; it is a threshold.

And it is our body, with its changing, demanding, and revealing, that is the doorway through which we pass. To meet it with love is not indulgent; it is necessary. It is how women reclaim their authentic leadership and step forward, not apologetically, but deliberately, into the role they were always meant to inhabit.

Just a reminder, don’t wallow in the weeds for too long, let the Sun in your heart shine through because dear one, you have done the hard yards, now it is time to fully Be You.

You Are Truly Amazing!

Heart to heart, Elizabeth

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Spiralling into 2026

Happy New Year, wondrous Souls

As the days quietly unfold into 2026, I’ve been senseing that we are stepping onto a new turn of the Sacred Mirroring Spiral within the Living Attributes Codex. A new cycle doesn’t arrive with a bang, it always arrives more like a remembering. A familiar feeling, met from a slightly different place within ourselves.

Because the spiral moves in a twelve month rhythm, January often carries a reflective quality. It’s the first month, yes, but it’s also a return point. I’ve noticed over the years that things can resurface around this time. Old memories, childhood themes and familiar emotions. 

Sometimes even stories that feel much older than this lifetime. Not because we’re going backwards, but because we’re ready to meet them again with more awareness.

For me, January always sits strongly in the physical realm and over the past few days, I found myself revisiting some of the past life stories I wrote for Wisdom of the Ages. I wasn’t doing it intentionally at first, but the revisiting of a sore knee made me notice how present these stories suddenly felt. Yet this time, I was meeting them from a very different place. Not as stories on a page, but as living experiences that now make sense in a deeper, more embodied way. The stories hadn’t changed, I had and came with some significant synchronicities. 

This is one of the ways the spiral works. It doesn’t repeat things to frustrate us or keep us stuck. When something comes back around, it’s usually because we now have the capacity to hold it differently. With more compassion. More steadiness. More self trust. What once felt unresolved often returns asking only to be witnessed from who we are now.

I wanted to share this with you because many of you may be noticing similar things. A sense of déjà vu. A feeling that something familiar from your past is entering your awareness again. Rather than pushing it away or over analysing it, try gently asking what this moment is offering you now. 

What feels ready to be integrated rather than fixed?

Working with the spiral means understanding that life isn’t moving in straight lines. It’s unfolding in living patterns that support our growth. Nothing is here to punish or test you. It’s all information, arriving at just the right time, shaped by how far you’ve already come.

As you move through January, allow yourself to be curious. Notice what’s resurfacing without judgement. Trust that the spiral is working with you, not against you. You are not being pulled back. You are being invited deeper, and a little higher, at the same time.

May this month feel spacious, may it feel kind, and may you sense the quiet intelligence of the Living Attributes Codex beneath your feet, reminding you that every return carries new wisdom, and every cycle brings you closer to your own embodied truth.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Your purpose is not what you do!

Your purpose is not what you do; it is what awakens, calms, illuminates, or rearranges the inner world of another when you dare to live as your Radiant Self.

Purpose is a frequency, a living signature, a quiet transmission of your Light filled Attributes. It is the echo of your essence moving through the field, brushing against someone else’s story and reminding them of their own forgotten brilliance.

In the language of the Living Attributes Codex, purpose is not an action but an activation.


It is the way your presence may stir the Faith of the Awakening Portal…
a Loving Coherence of the Integration Portal… 

or the rare luminosity of the Emergence Portal where Divinity meets everyday life.

This is the Sacred Spiral in motion, your inner light travelling outward, touching someone else’s spiral, and sparking their next orbit of becoming.

Think of this: How many times has a single conversation, a single sentence, a single moment with someone shifted the direction of your inner world? Those small, profound pivots happen because their attributes and archetypes spoke directly to your own.

Not the words. Not the task, but the transmission. Your purpose lives in that same quiet alchemy.

It might be in your storytelling, or your leadership, or your compassion, or the way you hold space through your coherent presence.

But the form is merely the vessel, the real purpose is the resonance it awakens in others, a subtle remembering of their own seed of the soul.

And here is the grace: Purpose can never truly be misplaced. Even when the outer identity shifts, the inner circuitry remains. Your living attributes, those twelve luminous strands, continue to weave themselves through every conversation, every offering, every simple gesture of kindness or clarity.

So ask yourself with gentle honesty:

What happens to people when I do what I do?
Do they exhale?
Do they lift?
Do they feel seen, recognised, restored?
Do they step closer to their own inner authority, their own source of light?

When you find that answer, you see the golden thread of your purpose, not a destination, but a living field. A forward-moving spiral. A subtle blessing. A light that travels beyond words, beyond time, into the hearts of those you touch.

This is the true work, the way of the Seed of the Soul, the Sacred Spiral and your Divine Destiny, that luminous path your soul has already chosen.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Trusting and Jealousy: The Light and Shadow Dynamics

Jealousy as a Compass: Working with a Shadow Attribute within the Living Attributes Codex

In the Living Attributes Codex, every light attribute carries a shadow, a counterpart that emerges when the light is challenged, unacknowledged, or misaligned. Trusting, for example, is a heart-centred attribute: open, generous, and confident in connection. Its shadow, jealousy, often arises when desire, attachment, or fear of loss enters the field.

Far from being a flaw, jealousy is a compass. It signals what truly matters to the heart, highlighting desires and values that may be unacknowledged or underdeveloped. The key is not suppression, but conscious engagement: noticing the shadow, understanding its message, and intentionally redirecting its energy into the aligned light attribute.

This practice, which I call “Correct and Transform”, provides a clear roadmap for working with the Codex. By observing jealousy without judgment, identifying the underlying desire, and transforming the energy back into trust, we turn a potentially destructive emotion into a powerful tool for self-referencing awareness and growth.

In this way, jealousy becomes a propeller on a person’s Sacred Spiral of Consciousness rather than a trap, guiding us toward deeper trust, authentic connection, and mastery over our own emotional landscape. This dynamic perfectly illustrates how the Living Attributes Codex can be applied in daily life: by honouring both light and shadow, we cultivate wholeness rather than suppressing what is present.

Light Attribute – Trusting

  • Nature: openness, generosity, confidence in connection, and ease in vulnerability.
  • Expression: belief in the integrity of relationships, self, and possibility; allowing flow without constant guarding.
  • Significance: trusting is the heart’s capacity to welcome life and others without fear, embracing what is real and shared.

Shadow Attribute – Jealousy

  • Nature: emotional charge triggered when trust feels fragile, or desires go unacknowledged.
  • Expression: ill feelings, comparison, fear of loss, or attachment.
  • Signal: jealousy is a compass pointing to your heartfelt desires; it illuminates what matters deeply to you. It is not “bad”; it is information about your unmet or threatened value.

Correct and Transform: Engaging the Shadow

1. Correct – Observe and Identify

  • Pause when jealousy arises: Recognise it without judgment.
  • Ask: What desire or attachment is this pointing to?
  • Distinction: “This is jealousy, an aspect of my shadow, signalling to me what my heart values.”

2. Reflect – Understand the Signal

  • Explore the deeper meaning: Why does this matter? Which part of my trust feels vulnerable?
  • See jealousy as a Sign, not a threat. It reveals your authentic desires.

3. Transform – Shift your Energy into Trust

  • Affirm what you can genuinely influence or cultivate.
  • Release imagined threats or comparisons beyond your control.
  • Reconnect with trusting energy: openness, generosity, and confidence.

4. Act – Align Behaviour with Insight

  • Express desires authentically.
  • Nurture connections or pursue constructive action.
  • Let jealousy be a self-referencing guide in your decisions without dominating them.

5. Integrate – Living Attributes Codex Self-Referencing Spiral

  • Journal Your Patterns: what triggers jealousy, what desires it reveals, and how you successfully transformed it.
  • Foster growth to strengthen trust, ensuring jealousy remains conscious, constructive, and transformative until it no longer arises.

Key Principle:
Jealousy is the shadow of trusting. It signals what the heart truly wants. Through the Correct and Transform process, jealousy becomes a compass guiding your trust, clarifying your desires, and cultivating authentic connection.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Living Attributes Codex | Mentoring

Don’t Invest in Someone Who Doesn’t Invest in You

As I move through the changing landscapes of my life, I keep returning to a quiet, steady truth: every relationship I hold—family, friendship, partnership, creative collaboration, or community—shapes the texture of my inner world. Each bond carries its own gravity, its own influence, its own invitation to grow.

Over the years, I’ve learned that the wisdom in don’t invest in someone who doesn’t invest in you is not sharp or defensive. It is tender. It is clarifying. It is the kind of truth that arrives when I finally listen to what my own energy has been trying to tell me.

I’ve known relationships where I was the one who kept the flame alive—where the conversations moved because I pushed them forward, where the care flowed mostly in one direction, where my presence was offered but not truly met. These moments didn’t make me naïve; they revealed how deeply I wanted connection to flourish.

But I’ve also learned that reciprocity is the heartbeat of healthy relationships. Every connection breathes through mutual presence, shared responsibility, and a willingness to meet each other with honesty. When that balance fades, I feel it. Something in me strains to compensate, and I start shrinking to maintain what no longer has the structure to stand.

Choosing not to invest in places that do not nourish me is not an act of rejection. It is an act of restoration. It is me returning to the centre of my own field, gathering back the energy I scattered in hope, and honouring the truth that my care is a precious resource—not something to be spent in silence.

And when I honour that truth, my world shifts. Space opens. My breath deepens. I find myself drawn into relationships—of every kind—that meet me with readiness and respect. People appear who show up without prompting, who hold their part of the bridge, who recognise that connection is something we build together.

This clarity doesn’t close my heart; it refines it. It guides me to place my energy where it can echo and expand. It reminds me that I am at my best when I’m in relationships that understand the value of mutual investment.

Because when the exchange becomes balanced and alive, every connection—family, friendship, love, or creative partnership—becomes a vessel for evolution.

And in that mutual field, we rise.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth