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When women enter The Change – Part Four

In early December 2025. I felt a quiet invitation to reshape my wellbeing. It was not born from urgency but from an inner knowing that it was time to return to practices that have always supported me. Fasting is a practice that I have experienced before, both in physical healing and spiritual deepening. Returning to it felt like reconnecting with an ancient conversation within myself.

As I shaped a personal program that felt true to my body and my intuition, a new insight arrived unexpectedly. I discovered the work of Dr. Mindy Pelz and her research on fasting during menopause and post-menopause. Her language and her understanding carved out a clearer path for me and affirmed what my body had already been revealing. It opened a new window into what was unfolding in this season of my life.

Now, only weeks later, something immense has stirred within me. My Sacred Mirroring Spiral feels awakened and illuminated more than ever. The Change no longer feels like a decline or a narrowing; it feels like a widening of consciousness. It feels like a threshold. There is a sense of returning to myself in a way that is both ancient and new.

This opened even further while I was listening to the song Hymn to Her. From an archetypal point of view, I could feel the Crown (Crone) rising. It was the quiet image of a woman who has walked through many seasons and finally places the crown upon her own head with grace. 

She does not seek applause; she simply recognises her own BEING.

This is where the true meaning of Crone and Hag becomes vital to reclaim. Crone speaks to the crown, the radiant wisdom that emanates from a lifetime of lived experience. Hag comes from hagio, meaning holy, a title once given to women of spiritual insight and depth. These words were originally filled with reverence and respect. 

Over time, they were twisted and distorted until they became caricatures that diminished women. The demonising of the Hag and the Crone did not happen by accident. It grew from a culture that feared powerful older women and worked to cast them as something to resist, fear, or mock. This distortion turned aging into something women were taught to hide, deny, battle, and feel ashamed of. It created an illusion that the later years are a descent rather than an ascent. Yet the original truth remains intact beneath the layers of distortion. Many feminist and spiritual communities are now reclaiming these titles to restore their dignity and power. They honour the original holiness of eldership and the strength that comes from a life fully lived.

In my own experience, The Change reveals itself as a fusion of three inner archetypes in the Living Attributes Codex. The Queen embodies sovereignty, self-respect, and a centred presence. The Wise Woman brings lived understanding, kindness, and clear perception. The Alchemist offers transformation, insight, and the ability to turn every experience into meaning and medicine. When these three merge, they create the fullest expression of The Change archetype. They form a powerful inner alliance that sees aging not as decline but as initiation. They recognise this season as a time of sovereignty, coherence, and inner radiance.

My journey with fasting, reflection, research, and intuition has brought me to this realisation. The body and spirit are inseparable, and together they guide me into this new chapter with clarity and courage. The Change is not a diminishing of power, but rather a remembering of it.

It is the awakening of the Crone or the Hag in her original light. It is the fusion of the Queen stepping forward, the Wise Woman watching with understanding and the Alchemist shaping new meaning. It is a woman finally seeing herself as whole and sacred, wearing The Crown that was always waiting for her, and has always been hers to claim.

And we will keep on speaking her name… “WOMAN”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

When women enter The Change – Part Three

When you listen closely to the language of women across generations, you begin to hear a kind of quiet poetry. Long before medicine named and measured it, women spoke of The Change. Not as a diagnosis, not as a defect, but as a passage. A threshold and a new season that arrived in its own time and asked to be met with patience, humour, and deep knowing.

The phrase “the change’ emerged in the 19th and early 20th centuries, when menopause was neither openly discussed nor clinically understood as it is today. In many Western cultures, it became a respectful coy term, partly shaped by modesty, yes, but also by reverence. It acknowledged that something fundamental was shifting without reducing it to symptoms alone. Hormones were not the centre of the story; the woman was.

What was understood intuitively, and often spoken about in kitchens, gardens, and women’s circles, was that this was not an ending. It was a reorientation; a woman was changing her relationship to time, energy, creativity, and authority. Monthly cycles softened or ceased, and with that came a subtle but profound redistribution of life force. The body was no longer organised around reproduction, but around wisdom, discernment, truth-telling and storytelling.

Anthropologists and historians have since noted that in many traditional societies, women who moved beyond their bleeding years were granted increased social and spiritual authority. They became advisers, storytellers, healers, and guardians of memory. Freed from fertility, they were seen as holding a broader view and less tethered to the immediate demands of survival, more attuned to the long arc of life. In this context, the change was not something to endure, but something to grow into.

The modern medical term menopause, from the Greek men (month) and pausis (pause), is precise but narrow. It names the cessation of menstruation, not the expansion of consciousness that often accompanies it. It only speaks to what stops, rather than what begins. And perhaps this is why so many women today feel a quiet inappropriateness. Their lived experience is far richer, more complex, and more transformative than the language often allows.

In my opinion, the return to the change is not to reject science or progress, but actually to widen the lens. To recognise that this phase is as much psychological, emotional, and spiritual as it is biological. It is a recalibration of identity, a new type of shedding, of those roles that no longer fit. A deep invitation to inhabit the self more fully, more honestly, with more sovereignly.

My mother, my nana, and my great-grandmother were not being vague when they used those words “The Change” They were being specific in a different way and were naming a truth that lives beyond charts and timelines. A truth that understands a woman’s life as cyclical, full of physical and spiritual initiations, and meaning at every stage.

Perhaps the quiet wisdom of the change is something we are ready to reclaim now, not as nostalgia, but as remembrance. 

The Collective Archetype of “The Change“

And for me, with my strong sense of the archetypal world, it feels perfect to give homage to all stages of womanhood, from the cradle to the tomb, we are WOMAN…

We start as a Child at the breast, to a Maiden in bloom. We change again as the Sacred Mother and caretaker, and experience a rush of our magical, re-productive energy as the Enchantress. And then the Wise Woman, the Alchemist and the Queen fuse and become one as our “Change” finds a new beginning.

Queen
Alchemist
Wise Woman

Again, a reminder that this passage of The Change is not a problem to be fixed, but a turning of the inner archetypal forces. And like all true archetypal changes, they carry within them the promise of becoming more fully who we already are.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

When women enter The Change – Part Two

You may be wondering why I am speaking so openly about bodies, hormones, sleep, hunger, stiffness, and fatigue, especially when my work, and this space, is devoted to purpose, living attributes, and archetypes.

At first glance, it may seem left-field.

Yet for me, it sits at the very centre of a woman’s evolution.

The Living Attributes Codex is not just an abstract philosophy. It is something we feel and grow our way into, something we embody. And embodiment, especially for women, is inseparable from the seasons of the body. Purpose cannot fully anchor itself in a nervous system that feels unsafe, misunderstood, or at war with its own rhythms.

Perimenopause and post-menopause are not detours from a woman’s path. They are very important thresholds.

For many women, this is the first time in their lives that their body demands to be truly listened to rather than overridden. The first time productivity gives way to pure presence, and the first time in our lives, the old strategies stop working. This is not a failure of will; it’s a summoning into your deeper intelligence.

Over the past decade, and especially in the last five years, much has been revealed. 

Experiences once dismissed as anxiety, depression, lack of motivation, or loss of relevance are now being understood through a clearer lens. We are finally naming what women have felt in silence for generations. The fog, the exhaustion, the sudden shifts in weight, mood, sleep, and loss of identity. These were not personal shortcomings; they were misread transitions.

Our ancestors knew this; in many cultures, menopause was not medicated or considered just old age. It marked a woman’s elevation, her movement into the council, the circle of decision-making, the role of seer, strategist, and guide. Her energy was no longer siphoned outward. It was consolidated inward. The body changed because the role changed.

Seen through this lens, practices such as gentle fasting are not about fixing the body. They are about supporting the extended initiation. About helping the body reorganise itself so that one’s renewal of purpose can land cleanly, without distortion or depletion.

And that is why I speak about these things here. I am 67 this year, so this has indeed been my own experience, and I’m now well into post menopause, but I prefer not to call it that anymore. My mother, her mother and her mother all referred to it as “The Change”, and I am going to continue that tradition. I think it is a wonderful reminder of what is actually happening. 

A reminder that empowerment without change and embodiment is simply a construct or performance, and purpose without physiological support can become a strain.

The Living Attributes Codex asks a woman to live in coherence, between her values, her nervous system, her metabolism, her intuition, her attributes, her archetypes and her choices. When the body is honoured during this transition, clarity returns. 

Discernment sharpens, boundaries strengthen, and a woman no longer needs to push herself to be purposeful; she knows she is. Purpose rises naturally, as a consequence of internal alignment with the Sacred Mirroring Spiral.

The Change (perimenopause and post-menopause) is not a problem to be solved. It’s just a developmental phase that has been misunderstood, under-resourced, and historically silenced. 

When we meet The Change with education, reverence, self-trust, and self-love, it becomes deeply empowering; it is not a story of loss, but rather a story of recalibration. One of authority moving inward, and of women reclaiming their rightful centre and place in their family and community.

Your body is not broken, your purpose has not faded, you are simply entering the years where the two finally meet… You can’t have a purpose without a body, and your body knows it needs a purpose. My new mantra is LOVE MY BODY FIRST

I am very excited, I hope you are, too

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Recalibrating the Body

An energetic & vibrational portrait

If life feels a little challenging at the moment, it could be that your Higher Self is asking for some recalibration.

Let’s have a closer look – Recalibration of the body is the process of realigning your physical, emotional, and subtle energy systems into greater coherence, allowing your whole being to vibrate at a higher, more harmonious frequency. 

Think of the body as a living instrument — strings, wind and drum — woven from cells, circulatory rivers, and an invisible pulse of energy. Recalibration is the process of tuning that instrument so its resonance matches a new frequency of being: quieter where there was noise, clearer where there was confusion, more coherent where there was fragmentation.

Below, I describe what that looks like across layers (subtle to physical), how it feels, and practical ways to support it.

The map — layers that shift

  • Subtle field (aura/energetic body): the luminous sheath around the physical body carries information — patterns of charge, density, and colour — that change first. Recalibration often begins here as a brightening, shifting colours, or a sense of subtle movement.
  • Energy centres (chakras / light-centres): centres of transformation open, compress, or spin at different rates. When they align and spin coherently, life-force energy flows freely; when stuck, they create local fatigue, emotional distress, or physical symptoms.
  • Nervous system: the autonomic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/fawn and the rest-and-digest states) re-tunes. You may move from chronically high arousal to more flexible responsiveness — the hallmark of resilience.
  • Endocrine & immune systems: hormones and immune signalling adapt to the new baseline. This can produce temporary fluctuations (such as sleep changes and energy waves) as the body learns a new set point.
  • Cellular & genetic expression: epigenetic switches — which genes are expressed or silenced — respond to the field. Over time, this rewrites patterns of cellular behaviour: repair, metabolism, and even how we store energy.
  • Field coherence / heart-brain resonance: when the heart and brain lock into coherent rhythms, we feel clarity, ease, and expanded intuition. This coherence is a measurable shift in vibrational alignment.

What it feels like (symptoms of recalibration)

  • Waves of energy, heat, or coolness move through the body.
  • Emotional surfacing: old grief, joy, or subtle states arising then settling faster.
  • Sleep changes: vivid dreams, altered sleep windows, or brief insomnia.
  • Sensory sensitivity: sounds, lights, smells feel sharper or more intense.
  • Periods of deep fatigue followed by sudden clarity or creative surges.
  • A sense of detachment from old identities and a gentle re-weaving of self.

These are not failures — they are the instrument being tuned. Expect discomfort and relief in the same breath.

The mechanics — how vibration rewires

  • Resonance & entrainment: like two tuning forks, bodies entrain to nearby frequencies (people, places, music). Recalibration shifts your dominant resonance; you begin to attract and align with different vibrational environments.
  • Coherence: when oscillations across the nervous system, heart, and subtle field synchronise, information flows more efficiently. Coherence reduces energetic friction — pain softens, decisions feel simpler.
  • Dampening & amplification: some frequencies are dampened (old trauma patterns lessen), others amplified (clarity, compassion, creativity). Practices selectively amplify new healthy patterns until they become the baseline.
  • Information field updating: subtle field carries archetypal, ancestral and karmic information. Recalibration rewrites the field’s “stories,” leading to different gene expression and behavioural outcomes.

Practical supports — gentle practices that help tune the instrument

  • Breath & heart-brain coherence practice: Counting to 5 as you take a slow breath in and then count to 5 again on your exhale along with a soft attention to the heart centre for 3–10 minutes daily with the elevated feelings in the heart of appreciation, gratitude, care, compassion and love. This calms the vagus nerve and invites coherence between the heart and the brain.

    (a gentle touch to your heart centre with your left hand is suggested)

  • Sound & vibration: hum, chant, sing or use binaural beats/toning. Sound moves stuck energy and re-patterns field resonance.
  • Grounding & nature: barefoot on earth, green walks, or sitting under a tree re-anchors the electromagnetic field and balances the nervous system.
  • Movement & somatic release: gentle yoga, embodied dance, or shaking releases stored charge and teaches the nervous system new movement patterns.
  • Ritual & container: simple rituals — lighting a candle, journaling intention, ceremony with community — create a psychic scaffold for lasting change.
  • Energetic hygiene: clear boundaries, brief daily energetic scans, and clearing (visualisation, smudging, salt baths) prevent re-adsorption of chaotic frequencies.
  • Rest, nourishment, rhythm: adequate sleep, nourishing foods, and regular micro-rests allow cellular systems to integrate the new set point.

A short practice — three-minute recalibration

  1. Sit comfortably. Place one hand over your heart, one on your belly.
  2. Breathe in 5 counts, hold 1, out 5 counts. Continue for 1–2 minutes.
  3. Imagine a soft, pale light moving from your heart to your head and down through the spine, aligning each centre as it passes. Say silently: “I attune my mind, body and spirit with ease and grace.”
  4. Open your eyes slowly and notice one small shift.

An encouraging note

Recalibration is not a finish line but a re-tuning that continues — sometimes quickly, sometimes in slow, graceful increments. It asks for tenderness, honest attention, and the courage to be present with what arises. As you cultivate practices that invite coherence, you will notice your life aligning: choices feel truer, relationships look and feel different, and your creativity finds new channels.

Dear Ones, We are navigating big, bumpy, and what appear to be uncertain times. Being in coherence and resonance with your Higher Self is a sensible move, and recalibration is essential.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Navigating Intense Transformational Times

Hello wondrous Soul,

Today I am talking about the importance of taking care of yourself while you move through our collective spiritual, emotional and evolutionary shift.


Self-Care for Deep Recalibration

As we live and move through these intense and extraordinary times, many of us engaged in deep clearing, integration, and healing are experiencing profound shifts—not just mentally and emotionally, but physically as well. The transformation we are undergoing is not merely conceptual; it is visceral, cellular, and deeply embodied. Even though we dedicate ourselves to meditation, sharing, and processing, the depth of this work is having a tangible recalibration effect on the body, requiring us to be even more intentional about self-care.

At times, it can feel like being in a pressure cooker—where everything unresolved is rising to the surface, demanding attention and release. This internal alchemy is accelerating, and as old wounds, ancestral imprints, past life experiences and conditioned responses dissolve, the body itself is adjusting to new frequencies, new ways of being, new timelines and an expanded state of awareness.

Understanding the Physical Impact of Recalibration

When we engage in deep healing, our nervous system, muscles, and energy field all respond dynamically. Some of the physical effects may include:

  • Fatigue or exhaustion due to the energetic shifts occurring at a rapid pace.
  • Body aches and tension, especially around the shoulders, neck, and lower back, as old energetic imprints release.
  • Heightened sensitivity to food, sound, people, and environments as our energetic field recalibrates.
  • Sleep disturbances as subconscious processing intensifies, especially during key lunar or cosmic cycles.
  • Emotional waves that manifest physically, such as tightness in the chest, digestive issues, or fluctuations in temperature.

These are all signs that the body is recalibrating, and rather than resisting, the key is to support the body in its adjustment with care and patience.

How to Look After Yourself During Deep Recalibration

  1. Nervous System Regulation
    • Engage in grounding practices like walking barefoot on the earth, gardening, or immersing in nature.
    • Incorporate breathwork techniques (such as box breathing or diaphragmatic breathing) to signal safety to the body.
    • Reduce overstimulation by limiting screen time, news consumption, and excessive social interaction when needed.
  2. Deep Rest and Restoration
    • Honour your body’s natural rhythms, allowing for extra sleep or rest when required.
    • Practice deep relaxation techniques to support cellular recalibration.
    • Create a bedtime ritual that includes herbal teas, essential oils (lavender, chamomile), and soothing music.
  3. Hydration and Nourishment
    • Drink plenty of structured or mineral-rich water to support detoxification.
    • Consume easily digestible, high-vibrational foods such as fresh fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.
    • Avoid overstimulating substances like excessive caffeine or processed foods, which can strain the system.
  4. Energetic Hygiene
    • Regularly clear your energy field through salt baths, smudging (with sage, palo santo, or frankincense), or sound healing.
    • Visualize golden light cleansing your aura and resetting your vibrational state.
    • Protect your energy by setting clear boundaries with people and environments that feel draining.
  5. Body-Mind Integration
    • Engage in gentle practices like slow stretching, yin yoga, or Tai Chi to help the body process and release tension.
    • Use gentle self-massage and fascia release techniques to ease muscular tension caused by emotional processing.
    • Work with affirmations and mantras that align with the transformation you are experiencing.
  6. Creative and Expressive Release
    • Journal your experiences to bring unconscious shifts into conscious awareness.
    • Engage in creative outlets such as painting, movement, or singing to allow the emotions to flow through expression.
    • Share in trusted circles where you feel safe to voice your experiences without judgment.
  7. Trust the Process
    • Recognize that discomfort is part of deep transformation and that resistance prolongs the pressure—surrender to the process.
    • Acknowledge the wisdom of your body and trust that it knows how to recalibrate when given the right conditions.
    • Remember that this work is not just personal—it is collective, and as we heal ourselves, we contribute to the healing of the greater whole.

Final Reflection

These times are calling for resilience, but not through force—rather through a gentle honouring of our process. The pressure we feel is not here to break us; it is here to refine us, to burn away what no longer serves, and to bring us into deeper alignment with our authentic essence. As we navigate these heightened energies, the most radical act of self-care is listening to what our body, mind, and spirit truly need—moment by moment, breath by breath.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Heart to Heart Storytelling

Unlock the Power of Your Story: A Workshop for Awakening Souls

I’m thrilled to invite you to a transformative new workshop: 

“How To Write and Tell a Heart-to-Heart Story.”

Each of us is the sum of countless stories — moments that have shaped who we are and reveal the truth of our being. Your story has the power to inspire, heal, and awaken both yourself and others. This workshop is designed to guide you in discovering, crafting, and sharing your story with clarity, confidence, and heart.

Why Attend?

  • Share your story with authenticity and authority.
  • Discover the purpose and power within your experiences.
  • Connect deeply with others and inspire meaningful change.

What You’ll Experience

1. Understanding the Importance of Your Story
Learn how your experiences shape your life’s purpose and reveal the wisdom you carry.

2. Crafting Your Testimony
Identify key moments in your journey, refine your story, and uncover its deeper value.

3. Sharing Your Story
Practice telling your story in a safe, supportive environment, and learn how to speak from your heart.

Key Elements of a Powerful Testimony

  • Inner Authority: Your life experiences are your power.
  • Authentic Communication: Connect emotionally and meaningfully with your audience.
  • Creating Connection: Inspire transformation in others through your courage and authenticity.

Tips for Writing Your Story

  • Start in the middle to capture attention.
  • Focus on a single theme that conveys your purpose.
  • Use vivid details to paint a memorable picture.
  • Connect your story to a larger message that touches hearts.

Join us on a heart-to-heart journey of self-discovery and storytelling mastery.

Together, we’ll unlock the transformative power of your story and awaken the stories within others.

Heart to Heart,
Elizabeth Ellames

Please Note

  • This transformative workshop is offered as three half-day sessions. The extended structure ensures that you have ample time to reflect deeply on your experiences, craft your testimony thoughtfully, and practice sharing your story in a supportive environment.
  • By spacing the sessions, you can absorb insights, experiment with your storytelling, and return with fresh perspective, making your journey of self-discovery and expression both profound and lasting.

Dates Coming Soon
Limited seats — reserve yours today!

REGISTER YOUR INTEREST HERE

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