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When women enter The Change – Part Four

In early December 2025. I felt a quiet invitation to reshape my wellbeing. It was not born from urgency but from an inner knowing that it was time to return to practices that have always supported me. Fasting is a practice that I have experienced before, both in physical healing and spiritual deepening. Returning to it felt like reconnecting with an ancient conversation within myself.

As I shaped a personal program that felt true to my body and my intuition, a new insight arrived unexpectedly. I discovered the work of Dr. Mindy Pelz and her research on fasting during menopause and post-menopause. Her language and her understanding carved out a clearer path for me and affirmed what my body had already been revealing. It opened a new window into what was unfolding in this season of my life.

Now, only weeks later, something immense has stirred within me. My Sacred Mirroring Spiral feels awakened and illuminated more than ever. The Change no longer feels like a decline or a narrowing; it feels like a widening of consciousness. It feels like a threshold. There is a sense of returning to myself in a way that is both ancient and new.

This opened even further while I was listening to the song Hymn to Her. From an archetypal point of view, I could feel the Crown (Crone) rising. It was the quiet image of a woman who has walked through many seasons and finally places the crown upon her own head with grace. 

She does not seek applause; she simply recognises her own BEING.

This is where the true meaning of Crone and Hag becomes vital to reclaim. Crone speaks to the crown, the radiant wisdom that emanates from a lifetime of lived experience. Hag comes from hagio, meaning holy, a title once given to women of spiritual insight and depth. These words were originally filled with reverence and respect. 

Over time, they were twisted and distorted until they became caricatures that diminished women. The demonising of the Hag and the Crone did not happen by accident. It grew from a culture that feared powerful older women and worked to cast them as something to resist, fear, or mock. This distortion turned aging into something women were taught to hide, deny, battle, and feel ashamed of. It created an illusion that the later years are a descent rather than an ascent. Yet the original truth remains intact beneath the layers of distortion. Many feminist and spiritual communities are now reclaiming these titles to restore their dignity and power. They honour the original holiness of eldership and the strength that comes from a life fully lived.

In my own experience, The Change reveals itself as a fusion of three inner archetypes in the Living Attributes Codex. The Queen embodies sovereignty, self-respect, and a centred presence. The Wise Woman brings lived understanding, kindness, and clear perception. The Alchemist offers transformation, insight, and the ability to turn every experience into meaning and medicine. When these three merge, they create the fullest expression of The Change archetype. They form a powerful inner alliance that sees aging not as decline but as initiation. They recognise this season as a time of sovereignty, coherence, and inner radiance.

My journey with fasting, reflection, research, and intuition has brought me to this realisation. The body and spirit are inseparable, and together they guide me into this new chapter with clarity and courage. The Change is not a diminishing of power, but rather a remembering of it.

It is the awakening of the Crone or the Hag in her original light. It is the fusion of the Queen stepping forward, the Wise Woman watching with understanding and the Alchemist shaping new meaning. It is a woman finally seeing herself as whole and sacred, wearing The Crown that was always waiting for her, and has always been hers to claim.

And we will keep on speaking her name… “WOMAN”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

When women enter The Change – Part Two

You may be wondering why I am speaking so openly about bodies, hormones, sleep, hunger, stiffness, and fatigue, especially when my work, and this space, is devoted to purpose, living attributes, and archetypes.

At first glance, it may seem left-field.

Yet for me, it sits at the very centre of a woman’s evolution.

The Living Attributes Codex is not just an abstract philosophy. It is something we feel and grow our way into, something we embody. And embodiment, especially for women, is inseparable from the seasons of the body. Purpose cannot fully anchor itself in a nervous system that feels unsafe, misunderstood, or at war with its own rhythms.

Perimenopause and post-menopause are not detours from a woman’s path. They are very important thresholds.

For many women, this is the first time in their lives that their body demands to be truly listened to rather than overridden. The first time productivity gives way to pure presence, and the first time in our lives, the old strategies stop working. This is not a failure of will; it’s a summoning into your deeper intelligence.

Over the past decade, and especially in the last five years, much has been revealed. 

Experiences once dismissed as anxiety, depression, lack of motivation, or loss of relevance are now being understood through a clearer lens. We are finally naming what women have felt in silence for generations. The fog, the exhaustion, the sudden shifts in weight, mood, sleep, and loss of identity. These were not personal shortcomings; they were misread transitions.

Our ancestors knew this; in many cultures, menopause was not medicated or considered just old age. It marked a woman’s elevation, her movement into the council, the circle of decision-making, the role of seer, strategist, and guide. Her energy was no longer siphoned outward. It was consolidated inward. The body changed because the role changed.

Seen through this lens, practices such as gentle fasting are not about fixing the body. They are about supporting the extended initiation. About helping the body reorganise itself so that one’s renewal of purpose can land cleanly, without distortion or depletion.

And that is why I speak about these things here. I am 67 this year, so this has indeed been my own experience, and I’m now well into post menopause, but I prefer not to call it that anymore. My mother, her mother and her mother all referred to it as “The Change”, and I am going to continue that tradition. I think it is a wonderful reminder of what is actually happening. 

A reminder that empowerment without change and embodiment is simply a construct or performance, and purpose without physiological support can become a strain.

The Living Attributes Codex asks a woman to live in coherence, between her values, her nervous system, her metabolism, her intuition, her attributes, her archetypes and her choices. When the body is honoured during this transition, clarity returns. 

Discernment sharpens, boundaries strengthen, and a woman no longer needs to push herself to be purposeful; she knows she is. Purpose rises naturally, as a consequence of internal alignment with the Sacred Mirroring Spiral.

The Change (perimenopause and post-menopause) is not a problem to be solved. It’s just a developmental phase that has been misunderstood, under-resourced, and historically silenced. 

When we meet The Change with education, reverence, self-trust, and self-love, it becomes deeply empowering; it is not a story of loss, but rather a story of recalibration. One of authority moving inward, and of women reclaiming their rightful centre and place in their family and community.

Your body is not broken, your purpose has not faded, you are simply entering the years where the two finally meet… You can’t have a purpose without a body, and your body knows it needs a purpose. My new mantra is LOVE MY BODY FIRST

I am very excited, I hope you are, too

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Spiralling into 2026

Happy New Year, wondrous Souls

As the days quietly unfold into 2026, I’ve been senseing that we are stepping onto a new turn of the Sacred Mirroring Spiral within the Living Attributes Codex. A new cycle doesn’t arrive with a bang, it always arrives more like a remembering. A familiar feeling, met from a slightly different place within ourselves.

Because the spiral moves in a twelve month rhythm, January often carries a reflective quality. It’s the first month, yes, but it’s also a return point. I’ve noticed over the years that things can resurface around this time. Old memories, childhood themes and familiar emotions. 

Sometimes even stories that feel much older than this lifetime. Not because we’re going backwards, but because we’re ready to meet them again with more awareness.

For me, January always sits strongly in the physical realm and over the past few days, I found myself revisiting some of the past life stories I wrote for Wisdom of the Ages. I wasn’t doing it intentionally at first, but the revisiting of a sore knee made me notice how present these stories suddenly felt. Yet this time, I was meeting them from a very different place. Not as stories on a page, but as living experiences that now make sense in a deeper, more embodied way. The stories hadn’t changed, I had and came with some significant synchronicities. 

This is one of the ways the spiral works. It doesn’t repeat things to frustrate us or keep us stuck. When something comes back around, it’s usually because we now have the capacity to hold it differently. With more compassion. More steadiness. More self trust. What once felt unresolved often returns asking only to be witnessed from who we are now.

I wanted to share this with you because many of you may be noticing similar things. A sense of déjà vu. A feeling that something familiar from your past is entering your awareness again. Rather than pushing it away or over analysing it, try gently asking what this moment is offering you now. 

What feels ready to be integrated rather than fixed?

Working with the spiral means understanding that life isn’t moving in straight lines. It’s unfolding in living patterns that support our growth. Nothing is here to punish or test you. It’s all information, arriving at just the right time, shaped by how far you’ve already come.

As you move through January, allow yourself to be curious. Notice what’s resurfacing without judgement. Trust that the spiral is working with you, not against you. You are not being pulled back. You are being invited deeper, and a little higher, at the same time.

May this month feel spacious, may it feel kind, and may you sense the quiet intelligence of the Living Attributes Codex beneath your feet, reminding you that every return carries new wisdom, and every cycle brings you closer to your own embodied truth.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Holy Days

Today I remember we are in Holy Days

The Light does what it may and I am in my makers’ arms.

I ask of Thee; above the tree, above the star, above all of me

I reach to my divinity, for there I am born a new,

I am born of Thee.

Bringer of the light that shines forth on this World

A light that gives birth to a newborn within my delighted Soul.

As it is Christmas, I reflect on a year passing and a new one forthcoming.

This year I find more of myself and require it less.

I wish for the world and want for nothing.

As I give, I have Joy and know what I do is only for you.

My generosity is an act of modeling Thee.

For you my Creator is present in all that I do; a gift of creation is what I offer you.

In my heart there is Joy beyond and abound, a life without generosity is no life to be found.

This Celestial time of LIGHT and Goodwill comes forth with no pardon, only persistence does spill.

A persistence that arrives year after year; a reminder of rejoicing and devoted good cheer.

Tis said that the babe was born at a virgin’s breast, that his light was from heaven, we all know the rest.

For all who have a song to sing and a light to bear – be the new Christ and Love will you dare?

A LOVE that brings to life a treasure so rare, to LOVE like the Creator is beyond compare and to seek ones inner Christ is to birth a new humanity.

This is our quest, our prize, and our longing. To find Christmas in our heart; is to find our divine belonging.

A gift to you, a gift to me, is nothing at all unless it is seen as a gift from Thee.

Merry Christmas and May Blessings Abound , Elizabeth

written by Elizabeth Ellames on 22nd Dec 2010

 
 
 
 
 

The Archetype of The Holy Family

When a man and a woman come together for the sacred purpose of creation, there must be a presence greater than themselves—the fifth element: LOVE. It is through this divine force that the miracle of life is activated. When their union is infused with LOVE, the soul of the newly born vessel intrinsically knows its name and its root.

The child’s innate qualities are organically awakened and will continue to unfold throughout their entire life. At the moment of conception, it is the Christing Light that begins the child’s journey, and it is this same Light that will guide and sustain them through every stage of their existence.

This profound act—the union of two families—creates an abundance of life force, and from this merging, a new family is born. The blood of generations past flows forward to bring life to the newborn child, forming a bridge between the old and the new. This life force, imbued with the golden light of Shekinah, becomes the thread that connects us all in the sacred lineage of creation.


Through this divine act, not only is a new child born, but so too are a new mother, a new father, aunts, uncles, grandmothers, and grandfathers. We are transformed by this process, becoming something greater than ourselves—creators of a new family.

I believe the cornerstones of a thriving family are Respect, Love, Joy, and Ritual.

  • RESPECT forms the foundation for all healthy relationships.
  • LOVE is the sweet elixir that sustains and nourishes the family.
  • JOY elevates the spirit, bringing harmony and connection.
  • RITUAL is how we acknowledge and honour the divine presence in all aspects of life.

Rituals and ceremonies hold a unique power to bring families together, offering a sacred pause from the routines of daily life. These acts of celebration honour the divine union at the heart of family and creation itself. Without the holy, ceremonies can feel hollow, leaving participants with a sense of incompleteness. Our authentic human nature is rooted in our connection to the myths and truths of creation. To celebrate anything without first honouring the gift of creation is to miss the essence of what gives life meaning.

As this remarkable year draws to a close, I invite you to reflect on these thoughts. Together, let us remember: we are all the Creator’s divine creation, bound by a shared lineage of Respect, Love, Joy and Ritual. Together, we are the Creator’s beloved family.

Heart to Heart, and Blessings to you this Christmas
Elizabeth

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Trusting and Jealousy: The Light and Shadow Dynamics

Jealousy as a Compass: Working with a Shadow Attribute within the Living Attributes Codex

In the Living Attributes Codex, every light attribute carries a shadow, a counterpart that emerges when the light is challenged, unacknowledged, or misaligned. Trusting, for example, is a heart-centred attribute: open, generous, and confident in connection. Its shadow, jealousy, often arises when desire, attachment, or fear of loss enters the field.

Far from being a flaw, jealousy is a compass. It signals what truly matters to the heart, highlighting desires and values that may be unacknowledged or underdeveloped. The key is not suppression, but conscious engagement: noticing the shadow, understanding its message, and intentionally redirecting its energy into the aligned light attribute.

This practice, which I call “Correct and Transform”, provides a clear roadmap for working with the Codex. By observing jealousy without judgment, identifying the underlying desire, and transforming the energy back into trust, we turn a potentially destructive emotion into a powerful tool for self-referencing awareness and growth.

In this way, jealousy becomes a propeller on a person’s Sacred Spiral of Consciousness rather than a trap, guiding us toward deeper trust, authentic connection, and mastery over our own emotional landscape. This dynamic perfectly illustrates how the Living Attributes Codex can be applied in daily life: by honouring both light and shadow, we cultivate wholeness rather than suppressing what is present.

Light Attribute – Trusting

  • Nature: openness, generosity, confidence in connection, and ease in vulnerability.
  • Expression: belief in the integrity of relationships, self, and possibility; allowing flow without constant guarding.
  • Significance: trusting is the heart’s capacity to welcome life and others without fear, embracing what is real and shared.

Shadow Attribute – Jealousy

  • Nature: emotional charge triggered when trust feels fragile, or desires go unacknowledged.
  • Expression: ill feelings, comparison, fear of loss, or attachment.
  • Signal: jealousy is a compass pointing to your heartfelt desires; it illuminates what matters deeply to you. It is not “bad”; it is information about your unmet or threatened value.

Correct and Transform: Engaging the Shadow

1. Correct – Observe and Identify

  • Pause when jealousy arises: Recognise it without judgment.
  • Ask: What desire or attachment is this pointing to?
  • Distinction: “This is jealousy, an aspect of my shadow, signalling to me what my heart values.”

2. Reflect – Understand the Signal

  • Explore the deeper meaning: Why does this matter? Which part of my trust feels vulnerable?
  • See jealousy as a Sign, not a threat. It reveals your authentic desires.

3. Transform – Shift your Energy into Trust

  • Affirm what you can genuinely influence or cultivate.
  • Release imagined threats or comparisons beyond your control.
  • Reconnect with trusting energy: openness, generosity, and confidence.

4. Act – Align Behaviour with Insight

  • Express desires authentically.
  • Nurture connections or pursue constructive action.
  • Let jealousy be a self-referencing guide in your decisions without dominating them.

5. Integrate – Living Attributes Codex Self-Referencing Spiral

  • Journal Your Patterns: what triggers jealousy, what desires it reveals, and how you successfully transformed it.
  • Foster growth to strengthen trust, ensuring jealousy remains conscious, constructive, and transformative until it no longer arises.

Key Principle:
Jealousy is the shadow of trusting. It signals what the heart truly wants. Through the Correct and Transform process, jealousy becomes a compass guiding your trust, clarifying your desires, and cultivating authentic connection.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Living Attributes Codex | Mentoring