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Unconditional Love: A Radical Path

It can be incredibly difficult—sometimes almost impossible—to forgive those who have hurt, betrayed, or traumatised us. When someone’s behaviour cuts deep, leaving wounds that echo across years or even lifetimes, forgiveness can feel like a betrayal of our pain, a dismissal of the truth.

And yet, when we hold on tightly to the story of the wrong, something else begins to take root—Rage, Resentment, Blame, Hatred—These energies may seem justified, even necessary, in the face of cruelty or injustice. But over time, they lodge themselves in our emotional body and nervous system, quietly distorting the very peace we yearn for. We lose touch not only with the person or events that hurt us, but also with ourselves. With our own essence and the humanity we are trying to protect.

Here’s the paradox:
The longer we withhold forgiveness, the more estranged we become from the very qualities we value—empathy, compassion, self-trust, and connection. 

But there is a powerful, transformative path available to us…

To love anyway. 
To love radically.
To love unconditionally.
Even when it defies logic.

Now, let’s pause here. The phrase unconditional love has been tossed around so frequently that it’s lost its gravitas. It’s become a buzzword in self-help circles and spiritual memes. But true unconditional love—the kind that asks us to see another’s humanity even through the fog of our pain—is not passive or naive. It is the most powerful of all forces.

To offer forgiveness and unconditional love to someone who has harmed you does not mean excusing their behaviour. It does not mean denying accountability, justice, or healthy boundaries. But it does mean choosing to transform the energetic imprint you carry—And that changes everything.

When we forgive, we shift our resonance. We reclaim our own clarity. We stop feeding the wound, and instead begin nourishing a new pattern of response. We become part of the solution.

Energetically, forgiveness liberates. It creates space where blame and resentment can’t exist. It invites a recalibration in the wider field, often in unseen but impactful ways. Your forgiveness might be the very light that helps tip the scales in a more life-affirming direction. 

Even if you never see the results directly, your act of inner alchemy becomes a living prayer—one that supports the emergence of truth, healing, and greater harmony.

This is not blind optimism. It is the wisdom of universal balance. Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It’s about freeing.

It’s about choosing love over bitterness, and coherence over chaos. It is how we reclaim our deepest humanity—And ultimately, how we help heal the world.

Heart to Heart and Blessings Abound, Elizabeth

The Power of Being in the Now

Inspired by the quote: “Life gives you plenty of time to do whatever you want to do if you stay in the present moment.” — Deepak Chopra

This quote centres on a soft truth—a reminder that time becomes spacious and generous when aligned with your presence. We often battle with time in a world that races ahead with to-do lists, deadlines, and digital noise. 

We say, “I don’t have enough hours in the day,” or “There’s never enough time to do what I truly want.” But what if it’s not the clock’s ticking that binds us—but our absence from the present moment? The present moment is more than a concept—it is the living gateway where life unfolds. It is the sacred terrain of the now, the only place where real change, healing, creativity, and joy can occur. 

When we truly place ourselves in the present moment, we step outside the illusion of scarcity. Time slows. Space opens. You feel, see and hear your true self again.

You might have noticed it in small moments—when you lose yourself in your craft, a conversation that stirs your spirit, or the hush of nature. Time bends. Hours dissolve. And somehow, everything feels possible.

Many years ago, I experienced this truth in the most unexpected place—on a morning television talk show. I had been invited as a guest to do a makeover on a woman. We began with a heartfelt conversation on the studio couch, sharing pieces of her story. But it was backstage, in the green room, that the real magic took place.

As I began the makeover—applying her makeup, cutting and blow-drying her hair, and styling her in a new outfit—I entered a heightened zone I had never known before. It was as though time expanded, allowing me to create with precision and grace. 

A chatty young woman hovered nearby, attempting to engage, but I simply looked up at her with a soft but clear gaze—a gentle authority—and she moved on without a word. I was entirely in the now. There was no rush, no cluttered mind, just my full presence. And in just 40 minutes, an entire transformation took place—not just externally—but something deeper, more radiant. A soul remembered.

Being present in the now, creates your authentic Presence!

That experience stayed with me. It taught me that your presence is your secret power. When fully engaged in the moment, without distraction or doubt, we awaken to an extraordinary creative force within us. It’s not just about doing more—it’s about being more present to what we are doing.

The truth is that life is not too short; we spend too much of it in the past or trying to rush into futures that haven’t arrived. We dwell on regrets, replaying old stories. Or we project our fears forward, trying to control outcomes. Either way, we miss the gift wrapped around the present moment. To stay in the present moment is not to ignore plans or dreams. It is to arrive fully in what is right now, so that our actions are infused with clarity, our choices are shaped by alignment, and our presence is charged with divine power. It is in the now that our true self speaks, our soul guides, and our deepest desires begin to crystallise into form.

So if you feel like you’re running out of time—pause. Breathe. Return to the moment that’s right in front of you. Here, you will find more than minutes or hours. You will find enough. Enough energy, enough grace, enough direction to do whatever it is your soul came here to do. Because life, in all its wisdom, doesn’t rush us. It waits patiently and faithfully until we are ready to return to the only place where magic, meaning, and miracles live: the present.

What is one desire or dream you’ve been putting off because you believe you don’t have enough time?

How can you bring a piece of that dream into this moment, today?

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Trust the Trigger – Your Inner Compass Is Calling

There’s a quiet but potent invitation that life extends to you every day — not through comfort, but through contrast. Through discomfort. Through the pang in your chest, the tightening in your jaw, the sting behind your eyes. Through your triggers.

Don’t avoid them.

Your triggers are not signs that you’re broken or failing. They’re sacred signals from your inner world, designed to guide you toward deeper truth. Like emotional tuning forks, they reveal where something within you longs to be seen, healed, reclaimed.

In recent years, we’ve seen the rise of trigger warnings as a social norm — and while originally intended to offer protection and care, they may have subtly taught us that discomfort is dangerous. That pain is to be avoided. That safety means never feeling anything unpleasant. But in truth, resilience isn’t built through avoidance. It’s forged through gentle confrontation, compassionate self-inquiry, and the willingness to sit in the fire without fleeing.

When we cushion everything, we risk weakening the muscles of emotional maturity. We deny ourselves the very experiences that build discernment, self-trust, and inner strength. And slowly, we begin to fear our own emotions — forgetting that we were born with everything we need to navigate the full spectrum of human experience.

So when a trigger arises, don’t run. Don’t suppress. And don’t shame yourself. Instead, pause, notice, and engage. Because in that moment of awareness, you begin a brave act of self-remembering. And from that place, something beautiful unfolds. You evolve, you grow, and you begin to trust yourself more deeply. You become your own emotional barometer — no longer dependent on others to tell you what’s safe to feel, but guided by the quiet compass of your own inner wisdom.

Your emotions are not enemies. They are energy in motion, which is meant to move you toward wholeness. And your triggers? They are thresholds — openings where the old self dissolves and the Radiant Self begins to emerge. Be brave. Develop your inner synthesis. Meet your threshols with grace.

You were never meant to be a stranger to yourself.

Trust the trigger. It’s not the end. It’s the beginning. It’s your soul’s whisper: “Come closer… I have something to show you.”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames
Helping you transmute pain into power and become the living legacy of your soul.

To Control is to Deplete — True Presence Illuminates

Hello wonderous Soul,

We live in a world where the illusion of control still wears the mask of power. Here’s what I know for sure—control is not strength. It is emotional control and confusion disguised as order. It hinders the spirit, tightens the breath, and discourages real connection. To control others is stepping out of resonance with your divine alignment and integrity. It is the path of intimidation, not grace.

True power is not in your push, but in your presence. It lives in your resonance. In the way your energy speaks before your words do, it’s not something you do. It’s who you are at your core. Resonance begins when you live with and as the vibration you long to awaken in the world. It’s when kindness becomes your current, stillness becomes your prayer, and your presence is a lighthouse.

Ask yourself:
What do I long to awaken in others? Now—how do I breathe, walk, and speak as that? This is how I live with Presence—I view my story as an integral part of my soul and sacred practice. I let that be my silent offering. I don’t have to convince. I don’t have to control. I just have to know.

This is my Light Leadership. This is my Living Goddess Code. This is how I shape the world—not by holding it tighter, but by blessing it with my presence. Let’s release the urge to rule, and instead rise to radiate. Let’s resonate so deeply with our truth that it awakens others to theirs.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth Ellames
Sacred Beauty Mentor

Season Three, Episode 1: Sacred Beauty Matters

Hello, wondrous Soul…

Welcome to season three of THE CODE—a sacred space where transformation begins with remembering. A space where we return to what’s true, what’s beautiful, straight from the soul.

I’m your host, Elizabeth Ellames, and in today’s episode, I’ll be sharing something deeply personal—something that has revealed itself as both my soul’s purpose and the heart of my life’s work.

But first, I want to take you back—Back to where it all began.

SACRED BEAUTY MANIFESTO

Live Your Soul’s Purpose with Confidence and Clarity

I believe Sacred Beauty is not something we chase; it is something we remember. A divine essence already living within us, waiting to be seen, felt, and honoured.

Sacred Beauty is the quiet power of a woman who knows who she is. It’s in her presence, her graceful strength, that soft, glowing shift on her face when she remembers her Soul’s purpose.

It is the light in her eyes when she speaks her truth. It is the stillness in her heart when she trusts herself again. It is the gentle power of choosing love over fear, creation over comparison, peaceful happiness over performance.

In a world that often praises perfection, I celebrate presence. In a culture that rewards speed, I honour our sacred rhythm. In a time that values noise, I listen for wisdom in the silence.

I believe every woman holds within her a unique blend of beauty, brilliance, and soul-given gifts. When she masters her talents, creates her art, and gives generously, she becomes a life-giving force of love in the world.

I believe in never giving up on your loved ones or yourself. I believe in the healing power of truth and in the joy that comes from living in alignment with your highest calling.

This is not just a philosophy. This is a way of being, a blessing. A sacred devotion to beauty that starts within and ripples outward, lighting the way for others to rise in their own radiance.

I am a Sacred Beauty Mentor—I am here to awaken the light in others. To help women live their Soul’s purpose with confidence, clarity, and peaceful happiness.

This is my offering. This is my art. This is my promise.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth