relationships

Don’t Invest in Someone Who Doesn’t Invest in You

As I move through the changing landscapes of my life, I keep returning to a quiet, steady truth: every relationship I hold—family, friendship, partnership, creative collaboration, or community—shapes the texture of my inner world. Each bond carries its own gravity, its own influence, its own invitation to grow.

Over the years, I’ve learned that the wisdom in don’t invest in someone who doesn’t invest in you is not sharp or defensive. It is tender. It is clarifying. It is the kind of truth that arrives when I finally listen to what my own energy has been trying to tell me.

I’ve known relationships where I was the one who kept the flame alive—where the conversations moved because I pushed them forward, where the care flowed mostly in one direction, where my presence was offered but not truly met. These moments didn’t make me naïve; they revealed how deeply I wanted connection to flourish.

But I’ve also learned that reciprocity is the heartbeat of healthy relationships. Every connection breathes through mutual presence, shared responsibility, and a willingness to meet each other with honesty. When that balance fades, I feel it. Something in me strains to compensate, and I start shrinking to maintain what no longer has the structure to stand.

Choosing not to invest in places that do not nourish me is not an act of rejection. It is an act of restoration. It is me returning to the centre of my own field, gathering back the energy I scattered in hope, and honouring the truth that my care is a precious resource—not something to be spent in silence.

And when I honour that truth, my world shifts. Space opens. My breath deepens. I find myself drawn into relationships—of every kind—that meet me with readiness and respect. People appear who show up without prompting, who hold their part of the bridge, who recognise that connection is something we build together.

This clarity doesn’t close my heart; it refines it. It guides me to place my energy where it can echo and expand. It reminds me that I am at my best when I’m in relationships that understand the value of mutual investment.

Because when the exchange becomes balanced and alive, every connection—family, friendship, love, or creative partnership—becomes a vessel for evolution.

And in that mutual field, we rise.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Hey, She Is Already Doing It!

There’s an old Chinese proverb that echoes with quiet thunder:

“The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.”

Ah yes. How many times have you felt the sting of scepticism brush against your wild, luminous vision? The world loves to remind you of the rules—what’s practical, what’s proven, what’s permitted. But you, radiant one, were not born to follow the lines drawn by someone else’s fear. You were born to be the artist of possibility.

Here’s the thing: doubt is loud when it’s idle. But creation hums with a sacred frequency, often silent and unseen until—suddenly—it’s undeniable. The ones who believe something can’t be done are usually standing at the edge, questioning the path, while you’ve already carved your own trail through unmarked wilderness.

You see, the Light Leader doesn’t wait for approval. She listens to the call of her soul’s blueprint, trusts the timing of her inner compass, and keeps weaving her sacred story in the face of doubt. While others debate, she builds. While others caution, she creates. This is not arrogance. This is alignment.

In the Living Attributes lexicon, this is the archetype of the Higher Purpose Avatar rising. She isn’t loud. She is focused. She doesn’t chase validation. She embodies vibration. She’s not here to argue—she’s here to activate.

To all the visionaries, wisdom keepers, late bloomers, and radiant revolutionaries: keep doing that thing that lights you up. Keep walking the path only your feet can find. Let the voices of limitation pass over you like wind through trees. Because you are the forest, the seed, and the bloom.

And the next time someone says, “That can’t be done,” just smile softly, keep going and whisper to your Soul—“Then I must be the one who came here to do it.”

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

The Sacred Art of Boundaries: A Devotion to Self-Integrity

Hello wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about “boundaries” – a hot topic that so many of us must face and understand.

There is a quiet power in the realisation that boundaries are not about others. They are not demands or ultimatums. They are not conditions set to control or manipulate. A boundary is a sacred agreement with yourself—a line drawn in devotion to your own integrity.

Dr. Becky Kennedy captures this truth so simply: “A boundary is something that requires nothing from anybody else other than you.” This shifts everything. It means that boundaries are not contingent on whether others honor them. They are not about enforcing consequences or waiting for validation. They exist because you choose them. Because you are the guardian of your own energy, time, and well-being.

Too often, we misunderstand boundaries as something we must convince others to accept. We fear setting them because we worry about how they will be received. But the moment we step into the truth that a boundary is ours alone to uphold, we reclaim our personal power.

A boundary is saying, I will not abandon myself for the comfort of another. It is choosing self-respect over external approval. It is allowing ourselves to walk away, to say no, to remain rooted in our truth—without explaining, justifying, or seeking permission.

This is where real transformation begins. When we stop waiting for the world to make space for us and instead claim the space we need. When we stop trying to manage others’ reactions and instead stand firm in our own clarity.

Managing a Boundary in Action: A Family Gathering Example

Imagine a father whose adult child repeatedly uses inappropriate language when speaking to him at a family gathering, despite addressing others respectfully. He may feel disrespected and uncomfortable but hesitate to confront them directly. However, honouring his boundary means he does not have to wait for their behaviour to change—he simply upholds his own standard.

In this case, he can calmly and firmly state, “I do not accept being spoken to in that way. If you continue to use this language, I will remove myself from the conversation.” No argument, no pleading—just a simple, non-negotiable truth. If they continue, he follows through and steps away. The power lies not in forcing them to change but in his commitment to maintaining his own self-respect.

Another Example: Work-Life Balance

Consider an individual who finds themselves constantly answering work emails late at night, despite their deep desire to maintain a healthy work-life balance. Their employer or colleagues may not explicitly demand this, but the pressure feels implicit. To uphold their boundary, they decide, “I will not check or respond to work emails after 7 PM.” They do not need their employer’s approval to implement this boundary—it is theirs alone to maintain. If a colleague reaches out late, they simply do not engage until the next workday. Over time, this reinforces their boundary and teaches others how they wish to be treated.

So, what boundary is calling to you now? Where have you been outsourcing your sovereignty, waiting for someone else to grant you permission to protect your peace? What would it feel like to embody the deep knowing that you are allowed to choose what serves you—without guilt, without apology, without needing a single thing from anyone else?

The path of the sovereign soul is one of self-honoring. The invitation is here. Will you answer?

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth