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The Hidden Danger of the Ordinary

Hello, wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about being extraordinary…

We’re often taught that “ordinary” is safe. That if we stay in our lane, play by the rules, and blend into the beige backdrop of convention, we’ll be rewarded with a quiet life. But let me offer another view—not a radical rebellion, but a soul truth: ordinary can be a slow seduction into mediocrity, sameness, and complacency.

It’s subtle at first. The ordinary offers us comfort, predictability, and a version of belonging. But left unchecked, it begins to dull the edges of our creativity, our daring, and our evolutionary spark. What once served as a haven of rest can become a rut of resignation.

Ordinary becomes sameness.
Sameness becomes stagnation.
And stagnation leads to entropy and the unravelling of life’s vital impulse.

We are not meant to stay still for too long. Life itself is motion, breath, transformation. When we settle into the ordinary and call it enough—without examining if it’s still true, still alive for us—we begin to betray the divine within.

Because here’s the deeper truth: we are not designed to stop becoming.

The yearning to grow, to evolve, to reach beyond what is known—it’s not selfish. It’s sacred. It’s part of the holy code written into our DNA. We are meant to push boundaries—not always in big, showy ways, but in authentic, soul-stretching movements that pull us closer to who we really are.

And look again at the word live. Now flip it: evil.

What stops life, what stifles it, denies it, dulls it, becomes its opposite. Anything that blocks the life force within us, cages our spirit in sameness, and suppresses the call to grow becomes a shadow force. A kind of quiet death.

And yet—many who appear ordinary are living extraordinary lives.

The poet who writes by candlelight, unseen by the world.
The healer whose laughter transforms pain in the checkout line.
The elder who carries stories like sacred seeds, planting them in the hearts of her kin.

These lives are not mediocre. They are alive. They pulse with intention, wonder, and presence. The difference is not in appearance—it is in awareness.

So let us not confuse ordinary with alive.
Let us not glorify sameness when it becomes a cage.

Let us honour the ordinary only when it is infused with devotion, purpose, and soul.
Let us rise from mediocrity, not to chase fame or perfection, but to become fully ourselves.

This is the true extraordinary life: one that resists complacency, that listens deeply, that dares to grow.

Because mediocrity is not just a lack of excellence—it’s a lack of aliveness.
Sameness is not just uniformity—it is forgetting the wild uniqueness of our own soulprint.

And evolution is inner, sacred, and radiant—it is our natural way forward.

So awaken, Beloveds. Live. Burn bright. The world needs your passion.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

Seeing the Scars, But Not the Story

Hello wondrous Souls,

Today I am talking about perception…

I always begin my presentations by sharing parts of my story to set the context of my brand. However, after a talk I gave to a large group of women on personal branding through archetypes, I was approached by someone who lingered back as the crowd thinned. They came up to me, eyes earnest, voice soft, and said:

“I’m so sorry that happened to you. I had a perfect childhood… I can’t imagine going through what you did.”

Then, without pause, they added:

“Imagine who you could have been if that hadn’t happened to you.”

Her words landed with a confused thud; they carried no malice but something subtler—more revealing. In that moment, I smiled gently, nodded graciously, and allowed her to speak her truth.

Later, in the quiet of my heart, I felt the need to sit with it—to feel it fully and sense what it might be pointing to, not just in terms of her understanding but also in how our stories are received, filtered, and sometimes misunderstood. Perhaps it was a moment shaped by her lifes lens—by unspoken wounds, cultural conditioning, or a need to make sense of my experience through her framework.

And, of course, there’s always the possibility that what was spoken was less about me and more about the quiet projections of her own subconscious beliefs—surfacing in response to something unprocessed within herself.

The woman’s comment came not from cruelty but from a lens shaped by simplicity—perhaps even pity and privilege. It struck me that suffering was a detour, an interruption to potential in her world. In mine, it was the fire that forged my authenticity. I don’t say that lightly. Pain doesn’t always make us stronger, but when we consciously work with it, it certainly makes us deeper.

There was a time when I, too, longed for a “perfect” past. One untouched by trauma. But that longing was now a ghost. My real growth began when I stopped seeing myself as broken and started seeing myself as a resilient and creative human being. Not despite my story—but because of it.

This person was indeed a gift and gave me another perceptive of how others may not see who I am due to the lens they choose to view life. Thankfully, for me the archetypes that inform my reality—The Alchemist, The Visionary, The Divine Child and The Queen—were not born out of a perfect world. They emerged gifting me all their light and shadow attributes—through my cracked-open places and the trials, challenges and initiations handed to me early in life.

If you only see the scars, you miss the magic and message in the story.

My truth is this: There is no version of me more powerful than I am now. Not the one who never experienced pain, not the one who was spared from a challenge. This version—right here, right now—results from soul-forging choices, courage in the face of fear, and a relentless devotion to turning wounds into wisdom.

And perhaps that is what we are here to do: not explain our story to be understood, but embody it so clearly, so confidently, so sacredly that others are invited not to pity us—but to look within themselves and ask, What am I not seeing about myself ?

So, to the gorgeous human being who approached me: I thank you, honour you and your spirit. I see your truth. But I know this—I am not a lesser version of who I could have been.

I am the living, breathing story of who I came here to be and I’m eternally grateful for my extraordinary story.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

If you are inspired by what you’ve read?

You can dive deeper into your transformation by exploring my coaching sessions, workshops, and retreats. Let’s co-create a future where you step fully into your Souls Purpose. 

~ You can visit my services and workshops to begin your journey today!

We Are Not Born Leaders, We Become Them

Hello wonderous Souls,

Today I am talking about authentic leadership…

You are not born with confidence etched into your bones, nor do you arrive in this world as a fully-formed leader, striding with certainty into your vocational life. Confidence is not an inheritance, nor is leadership a crown granted at birth. Rather, they are quiet fires kindled over time—fueled by observation, tested through challenge, and shaped by the courage to show up as you truly are.

It is through the lens of deep observation that you first learn—watching others stumble, rise, retreat, and lead. You see the power of presence, the weight of words, the grace of listening. You begin to understand that leadership is not a posture of dominance, but a display of authenticity. It is a rhythm that pulses from within, aligned with integrity and soul.

And so, the journey begins—not with bravado, but with intention. Each time You choose to step into your authentic role, even if your voice trembles, you say to the world, “This is me, arriving as I am.” In that moment, something soft but unshakable awakens.

You expand. You remember. You grow.

Every honest step forward—whether it’s leading a circle, making a boundary, creating something new, or speaking your truth—is another strand woven into the tapestry of your true identity. You become more of yourself each time you show up in your truth, rooted in what is real, not rehearsed.

Leadership, then, is less about being in front and more about being aligned. And confidence, in its truest form, is the peace of knowing that who you are is enough—and always becoming more, naturally.

So let’s not wait for perfection before you begin. Let’s lead not only because you are ready, but because you are willing and available for your life. Remember, your authenticity is your greatest authority—and from that place, you rise, and rise again.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

What is Story?

For me, story is the architecture of life.

It’s how I understand the world, how I make meaning of my experiences, and how I witness the unfolding of my human journey. Every twist and turn in life is part of a larger narrative—crafted not only by events, but by the deeper patterns that shape who I am becoming.

Our archetypes are the architects of these stories. They design the inner landscapes of our thoughts, emotions, and values, and they influence how we express ourselves in the outer world.

I also believe that story moves through us—not just from memory or imagination, but as a living force. That’s because story contains archetypal energy. These are not simply characters or roles—we’re talking about deep, universal forces that live in the collective unconscious. They move through us to be expressed, integrated, and ultimately embodied and shared.

Story is not just a past to remember—it’s a pattern to live by.

Why Story Matters

My personal story is a sacred reflection of my soul’s journey. It reveals where I’ve been, who I’ve become, and what wisdom I carry forward. Through it, I can see how my values were formed and how they now inform the way I show up in the world.

Story builds bridges—between people, within communities, and across generations. It fosters empathy, evokes a sense of belonging, and brings depth and meaning to life.

When I explore my own story, I have uncover hidden archetypes, long-forgotten memories, and deeper layers of my identity. Story has the power to heal wounds, connect hearts, and awaken ones strength. It reminds me that I am not alone—and neither are you.

How I Work with Story

Over the years, I’ve developed a deep reverence for storytelling as both a sacred art and a transformational tool. Here’s how I engage with it:

  1. I explore my narrative threads—those moments of initiation, turning points, triumphs, and challenges that have shaped my journey. Each one holds insight, truth, and medicine.
  2. I let archetypes speak. I allow their energy to rise within me and guide my reflections. Archetypes bring structure, symbolism, and soul to my story.
  3. I map my story—not just the events, but the patterns, values, attributes, and breakthroughs that have defined my growth. This mapping offers clarity and reveals the design of my inner world.
  4. I practice storytelling as sacred ritual. I write it, speak it, and most importantly—I live it. Story becomes a way to honour my experiences, reclaim my voice, and integrate my soul’s journey.
  5. I share with courage and vulnerability. I know that when I tell my story with authenticity, I create resonance. I open the door for transformation—not just for myself, but for others who recognize a piece of their truth in my words.

In the end, story is alive. It moves through us, guided by archetypal forces that are calling to be expressed. It is one of the most powerful tools we have for healing, awakening, and becoming. When we learn to listen, shape, and share our stories consciously, we align with the deeper rhythms of life and begin to live in harmony with who we truly are.

So I keep telling my story—not as a finished product, but as a living, breathing expression of becoming. And I invite you to do the same. ~ Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

If you are inspired by what you’ve read?

You can dive deeper into your transformation by exploring my coaching sessions, workshops, and retreats. Let’s co-create a future where you step fully into your Souls Purpose. 

~ You can visit my services and workshops to begin your journey today!

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Our Cosmic Earth

Art by Elizabeth Ellames

As we evolve, we’re not just changing within this reality—we’re simultaneously unfolding into different versions of ourselves across other dimensions. Each shift in awareness, each choice we make, resonates beyond this plane, influencing parallel timelines and alternate selves. Growth isn’t linear; it’s multidimensional, and with every step forward, we’re also expanding outward into other expressions of who we are.

Heart to Heart, Elizabeth

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THE CODE – S2. Ep: 5 The Gold Keys to Transformation

Hello, wondrous souls, and welcome to THE CODE—where timeless wisdom meets modern insights – We explore the deeper currents of transformation, personal evolution, and the wisdom codes that guides us toward our highest potential.

I’m Elizabeth Ellames, and today we are unlocking The Gold Keys to Transformation—a truth that lies at the heart of every genuine shift in consciousness. If you’ve been walking this path of self-discovery, you’ve likely encountered moments of inspiration, insight, and even profound breakthroughs. But the real question is—how do we ensure that transformation isn’t just a fleeting experience but a lasting, embodied reality?

Over the past 30 years, I’ve worked with countless people through retreats, workshops, and coaching, and I’ve discovered one simple but profound truth:

✨ You can have access to all the wisdom in the world—meditation, self-development practices, archetypal work, or past-life integration—but unless you are ready, willing, and available to do the work, nothing truly changes. 

If you have been inspired by this episode, I also encourage you to take the next step—For more insights and information on what I offer, go to the links in the description section of this episode.

Thank you for tuning into THE CODE and if this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with those who are ready to awaken their highest potential.

Heart to Heart and Blessings Abound.